When you hear people talk about the qualities they want in a friend or relationship, you will be wowed by it. But what surprises me is the fact that a lot of these people do not even meet their own qualification. How will you expect someone to treat you goodly when you do not even treat them well? Whatever you want in people or how you want them to treat you should be determined by how you treat them. The truth is that you will draw the kind of friends that you are. Of course, good things and good people will follow the one that also has a good heart.
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One of the things I believe is that, instead of trying to change someone to fit into your own requirements, and instead of looking for someone that will be exactly what you want in a friend, why don't you fulfil that requirement first? It is true that everyone will want to be friends with people of good attitude, and would also want good to be done to them including you, and also the other person too. As much as you want a good friend, the other people that you want as friend also want a good friend, so are you that good friend? You think people will gladly choose to be with a toxic person because they want them as friend?
It is worthy to note that the world is becoming increasingly cruel and pressuring that no one will want to add your own toxicity and nastiness to their already pressured day. If you discover that you lose friends more often than you make them, or you find it difficult to sustain and keep friends, then you might need to check your attitude. If everyone is complaining about the same thing about you, then they cannot all be wrong at the same time. If you are the only one that looks right in your own eyes and everyone else looks wrong, then there are chances that you are the one that is actually wrong.
There may be many things that can bring someone close to you, like your looks, stature, background, etc, but these things may not be what will sustain them. Making friends and sustaining friends are two different things. You will need much more than physical looks to sustain friends, you will need a good attitude, character, humanity, kindness, etc. Being good does not only make you a better human but it also makes people to treat you better. When you do good to people and show kindness to them, then it will be normal for them to reciprocate the goodness to you. So if you want someone doing good to you, you have to set the precedence by being good.
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Being good does not only mean doing good to your friends and family but to the world at large. In fact, people watch how you relate with others and that is how they will rate you. If you do good to the people of your circle but very rudely to others, then you are not good. If you relate goodly to your boss in the office, so as to avoid being queried or sacked, but you treat the gateman, the chef, and the gardener with cruelty, then you are neither good nor kind. As a matter of fact, to be a better human, your goodness should be to all. You do not just suddenly want to be good because you want to get a good friend, but it should be a lifestyle for you and a part of you.
When it comes to friendship, there are things that you should not turn blind eyes to. How your friends treat others may just be how they may treat you in the long run. This is why you have to look out for someone with a goodly attitude. But much more importantly, you should also exhibit the same goodly attitude and character. Trust me, no one will leave their most priced treasure out to the dogs to feast with. In the same way, no good friend will give you their heart until you too have proven to be worthy of them. Truth be told; the most challenging part of friendship is not entering a new friendship per se, but retaining the old ones. I mean, if you cannot retain your friends and they leave as soon as you make them, then you might just be the problem, and you need to fix up.
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