I think a lot of this stems from the fact that we aren’t as supportive of each other as we could and probably should be in regular contexts.

Being seen as a victim is attractive because it leads to certain people blindly supporting you out of whatever insecurities they have about being a good person and not fitting their own standard.

Not saying victims don’t deserve the support, they totally do, but if people were a little more consistent with their decent gestures and support of friends and strangers, it might not make playing the victim such an attractive position.

So I guess what I’m saying is we need to fill the gap in decency given to regular people and victims, not by giving less decency to victims but more decency to EVERYONE.

Also it’s too big a topic for here, but if people learn to focus on what they can actually do in their lives rather than what other people are doing, the addiction to drama disappears. Drama is a big distraction from personal empowerment

And for what its worth, I think my boomer parents messed me up pretty bad but i don’t think complaining about boomers forever is the way to fix it….