Most lies happen because people have to figure out how to inject what they want to say into a conversation.

If we do not adapt what we want to say to the conversation at hand; then we break the flow of the conversation which is disrespectful.

An example of a typical conversation happened in this post. I read the question in the title of this text and came up with an answer to that question. My answer is the first line of this post: "People often lie because they have to adapt their answers to fit a conversation."

I then read the body of the article.

To answer the question, I either have to break the flow of the conversation that you started in your article, or I have to adapt my answer to your article.

I decided to ignore your article and write my answer. This was very disrespectful.

A better way of engagement is to actually listen to others and to adapt the response to the conversation. Such adaptation always involves compromises in our chain of thought.

I like the classical liberal approach to education which sought to teach people how to engage in discourse. Proper discourse always involves compromises. If there are no comprises; then no discourse took place.