sometimes as a guy, you just keep quiet, smile, and move on. Not because you’re not feeling anything, but because if you talk, they’ll say you’re complaining or you’re not man enough. But deep down, some things women do can really just touch your nerve. And not in a good way.
Like this one — when a lady starts acting like she’s entitled to everything simply because she’s a woman. That thing can be frustrating. You know that vibe of, “You’re the man, so you’re supposed to do this and that.” You’re expected to pay for everything, sort every bill, handle every issue — just because you’re a man. And it’s not like you have a problem taking care of someone you like, no. In fact, most of us enjoy doing it. But it becomes a problem when it starts to feel like an obligation, like you’re failing if you don’t do it every single time.
Sometimes, you just want someone that gets it — that understands that being a man doesn’t mean you have it all figured out or that you’re not allowed to be tired. But nah, some ladies go just carry expectation on their head and when you can’t meet up, they’ll switch on you like you suddenly lost value.
Then there’s that thing where she does the bare minimum and wants to be praised like she just climbed Mount Kilimanjaro. She cooks one meal and suddenly it’s, “I did this for you, I’m not your housegirl o.” Meanwhile, you’ve been going out of your way back-to-back without making noise. It’s not a competition, but if we’re both in this thing, shouldn’t we both be putting in work without turning it into a favour?
And the one that really gets me sometimes is when she tests you — like it’s a game. She wants you to prove your love every two market days. She won’t say what she wants directly, she’ll be dropping hints and watching if you’ll pick up. If you don’t, wahala. But you’re not a mind reader. You’re not supposed to be decoding every single time. Just say what you want and let everyone breathe.
Also, that reaction when you say “no”? Wahala. You tell her you can’t do something now, or maybe your pocket no balance at the moment, and the vibe changes instantly. She starts acting cold, or she’s suddenly “busy.” But if it were the other way round, she’d expect you to understand. So why is it different when it’s your turn?
And don’t even get me started on how they want you to open up emotionally, but when you finally do, you’re either too soft or too needy. You’re expected to show feelings, but not too much. Cry, but not cry like that. Be vulnerable, but still act like a rock. Like how now?
At the end of the day, it’s not like we’re asking for too much. Just a bit of understanding. A little more balance. Someone that sees you beyond what you can give or how much you earn. Someone that gives as much as she takes — not just gifts, but effort, love, energy, support.
Because truth is, most guys don’t really talk about these things. We just eat it, chest it, and move. But once in a while, it’s good to say it as it is — not to fight, not to drag, but to be heard.
And maybe, just maybe, things go begin balance small.