While it is true that it is very beneficial to face changes with positivism and good cheer, it is also necessary to know what are the difficulties we will have to face in each change process.
Being a mother sometimes seems like something very intimidating to us. During pregnancy, the only thing that concerns us is the moment of delivery. Often, what most frightens us is the pain of the moment, but really, we spend little time thinking about postpartum.
While it is true that there are those who openly share the pros and cons of full motherhood, there is still a large number of people who tend to focus only on the "pink" details of the issue. In this way, women get the wrong idea and that is when there are shocks that are highly damaging at the moment of encountering the difficulties of motherhood.
To avoid traumas and make difficulties outweigh the woman, the best thing to do is to speak openly about the subject and explore the secrets of motherhood with sufficient depth to be well informed and thus be able to cultivate a critical attitude that benefits us , even in adversity.
1. Contractions after giving birth
When one thinks that the pain has stopped, the body returns to surprise with new contractions. It usually occurs between 24 and 48 hours after delivery , although they may last a few days longer. This happens due to the contraction of the uterus.
2. The lochia
After delivery, whether vaginal or cesarean, a flow called lochia is expelled . This is a vaginal discharge that is made up of blood, mucus, and remnants of the lining of the uterus during pregnancy. It can last up to six weeks.
3. Breastfeeding is not as easy as it seems
Breastfeeding many times is not an easy task. There are children who take longer to get used to their mother, and that is something that frustrates us. This situation can occur because the baby does not know how to suck, but it is best to consult a specialist. Do not despair, because your son will end up eating sooner or later. Being nervous and overwhelming will negatively affect your health.
4. Fear of something happening to your baby
You're watching him all the time, and you get up continuously to see if he's okay or if he breathes. It is also possible that you worry about your diet in an exaggerated way, whether you poop or not. This somewhat obsessive behavior is normal. Now you are a mother and with that title are included all those concerns. It is logical that your son's health take away your sleep.
5. Go from happiness to sadness easily
In postpartum, the female body goes through a hormonal revolution. You may feel very happy and energized one day, and the next you just want to cry. Take a little time to get used to your new situation. These changes in behavior will disappear as the weeks go by. If you see that you feel very weak and sad, do not hesitate to go to the doctor , because it could be a postpartum depression .
In postpartum, you can be happy one moment and the next, exhausted.
6. Scars and pain
It is possible that you have had to give points on the perineum and it is difficult for you to go to the bathroom. It's complicated, but remember that you can get ahead. Think of all the women who are going through or have been through your situation. If they have been able to do it, you too.
Try to stay positive and focused, even if you feel pain, this will not be forever and the scars are not the end of the world. Whether you decide to keep them or decide to reduce them, you are still beautiful. Never forget.
7. Excessive fatigue
Even though, apparently, you have energy, in reality you are exhausted . The first few weeks you sleep little, you have to face all the responsibilities and you are very aware of the baby. All that routine leaves a mark on your body, so every time the child sleeps, you also take the opportunity to rest.
8.Misunderstandings with your partner
They do not have to appear, but they occur quite frequently. Nerves and fatigue affect both of you, and you can not always see things in the same way.
During the postpartum, everything related to the baby upsets us and it can be very difficult to face things with good disposition. In this sense, it is recommended not to resort to reproaches and choose to look for solutions instead of pointing out problems and distributing blame. If necessary, they can resort to family therapy to lean on them and overcome difficulties.
9. The baby cries
The baby cries, basically for everything. As in the beginning, both are going through a process of many changes and are still getting to know each other; It's hard to know why he cries. If by hunger, cold or sleep, or some other discomfort. Although it is difficult, try not to worry too much, because over time, you will learn to know what the baby wants. This is just the beginning of your great adventure as a mother.
Postpartum is a period of learning and happiness , but also of discomfort. Among them is insomnia, pain points, general exhaustion and skin sensitivity that can cause changes in our emotional health.
For this reason, it is important to keep in mind the 9 secrets that nobody tells us about postpartum, continue to inform us and maintain a critical attitude to overcome difficulties in the best possible way. Who says it's impossible?