Pressure comes at certain stages of our lives. We feel choked up and get easily frustrated. While some handle it better, based on exposures and learning, others don’t do too well with it. No one likes being pressured. No one enjoys going through pressure.
We all want things with ease, but pressure is not entirely a bad thing. It forces us to think fast, re-strategize, and do proper planning. I admit, if not properly managed, others might break as a result of it.
We are all different and we handle things way too differently. I have met people that say they give their best when under pressure because they can think deeper and leverage on exercising their inner peace and I have seen quite a few people who fold, gave up and never remained the same. Our exposure is our reality. When pressure comes, we should try so hard to maintain an inner peace and know it will pass. Once we view it differently, we might use it to our advantage and not necessarily break us.
There is some pressure that we pile upon ourselves that is totally uncalled for. So many external pressures and even internal pressures that are so uncalled for. I am not against challenging ourselves, I am not against pushing ourselves to be a better person, but when that pressure is making us lose our sense of worth and ability to think logically, I think we can all admit that it is never a good thing. It is only a matter of time till that person folds.
Once we know our strength, we can know how best to handle any pressure that comes our way and how to use it to our advantage. Pressure comes from our spouse, girlfriend, fiancee, work, and all sort of things. Like I said, some can be totally avoided if we just know ourselves, and take our stand on certain delicate issues.
We need to also prioritize, which sometimes help lessen the burden of the pressure, so it won’t get to us too much and become unbearable for us to handle.
Sometimes parents pile up pressure on us that are totally uncalled for. Most of the time, this pressure comes because they want us to go through a certain thing, just because they also went through it. They sometimes forget we have different capacities to handle things. Because they got married at a certain age, they want us to (external pressure), because our parents live in a certain house, we also want to live in such (internal pressure). Like I said, some of them are good, if it drives us to be better, but we can all agree that some of these pressure can be totally avoided or better managed, without necessarily breaking us.
I will share with you in the next part, a true life story of a lady friend, who got pressured by her parents and what she had to go through.
...to be continued…
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