Sometimes, there are certain types of people who will discourage you and make you think and see life in a negative way. Sadly, seeing things negatively leaves no room for your positive sides to grow. These people will sometimes pass unkind remarks or do things just to stop you from succeeding mostly because those people are completely miserable in their own lives that they don't want others around them doing better than they are.
The negative vibes that these people bring can add more misery to your life. That is why it is important that you are aware of the people who will be happy to see you live as a pessimistic person. It would be better if you ignore these folks and be strong enough to move on from them. Ignoring them does not mean that you hate them, it just means that you care more about your well-being than their opinions and criticisms.
As I write this article, I am really talking to myself because I many times can find myself around those 'negative Nancy's' and I just have to learn to filter out the noise. And it is not just in the real world, you have to learn to control these things in the digital world as well, as most of us know all too well.
It's also good to point out that we are finding out as time goes on that social media will many times bring out the worst in people. It can also amplify their negativity because we all are being fed this constant feed of garbage that it can only make you negative toward the entire world if you pay attention too long. But you do have more control than you realize. You can turn off the apps and put down the phone and just not deal with it. Believe me, this leads to a much lower blood pressure reading, haha.
Moving on...The following are the type people who can bring you down and make happiness harder for you to experience:
Impossible to Please
There are people who are really hard to please. Sometimes, it is better to accept the fact that you will never please them no matter what you do. If you keep on exerting effort to try and please someone that you know from the start will have something negative to say, it will not deliver positive results and may end up putting you down a negative path as well.
At some point in your life, you will meet people who will treat you badly, disrespect you, and discredit you for no particular reason. The best thing that you can do in this kind of situation is to simply walk away. You do not have to consume yourself with trying harder just to win their approval especially if you already tried that before but they are still not pleased.
Fake Friends
Friends are the ones whom we can rely on in times when we needed a shoulder to cry on. They become your siblings by faith. Unfortunately, there are also people who pretend to be your friend when in fact they only treat you as one because you are beneficial to them. Fake friends only remember you when they need your help. For this reason, it is essential that you are careful when choosing people whom you will include in your circle of friends.
It also pays to know the qualities of friends who can bring you down instead of helping you get up after failing. “Fake” friends will not accept you for who you are no matter how hard to you try to fit in. They want to see you get in trouble and do something wrong. This type of friends also turns their back on you and brings you down by not being there when you needed them the most and by not staying true to their promises.
Many times, these snakes in the grass can be really hard to spot until it is too late. So be vigilant in today's time when choosing the people you want to spend your time and energy with. Make sure they are going to make you a better person instead of bringing you down to their level.
Bullies
Bullies make the life of people more complicated. They prioritize their needs and feeling over the people around them. Bullies use their negativity to scare and intimidate you as well as manipulate your thoughts. They will say and do anything to make you do what they want you to do for them. They manipulate people for their own personal gain.
In most cases it is because they have things in their life that is going down a very negative path and they feel they have no option but to take it out on other people. I many cases with kids, it is because they are being bullied by someone older, maybe a sibling, parent, or just an older bully that is having the same issues. But in any case, bullies will bring you down and do nothing positive for your life.
Unforgiving People
All people make mistakes. What’s important is that you take an effort to correct such a mistake, learn from it, and think of ways on how you can prevent yourself from committing the same mistake. However, there are people who find it hard to forgive those who did something wrong to them or do not support you in your goal of growing beyond your past mistakes.
Use your past mistakes as your guide when living in the present and planning for your future. If the people around you constantly judge you based on the mistakes that you have committed in the past or use such mistakes to hold it against you and use them to bring you down, it would be best if you leave them behind.
Drama Queens
Yes! Drama queens can also bring you down, and a drama 'queen' can certainly be of either gender, haha. They are the type of people who always want to create controversy and outlandish antics for no apparent reason. The ideal thing that you can do if you happen to personally know a drama queen is to ignore them and just walk-away.
You have to do your best to make sure that you do not fall into their antics. Deal with them in a calmer and more confident manner as you do not want to stir up your own controversy. When possible, you can show them how to manage different problems in life. Instead of allowing them to bring you down, be the one who inspire, educate, and encourage people to always practice compassion and understanding.
People Who Insist That You Should Be Someone Else
Be proud of who you are! You have to create your own identity and not the one that is copied from others. There is no better feelings than to know that the people around you accept you for who you are and not the one they want you to become.
Unfortunately, there are people who do not see and appreciate the developments that you made for yourself that speak of who you really are. They keep on insisting that you will become a better person if you become someone else. Of all people, it is you who knows what is best for you. You can experience real success, love, and happiness if you chose to be who you are and not a second version of someone else.
Let the people around you love and respect you for who you are, and do not conform to please them or feel threatened if you do not become who they want to be. This was always an issue for me growing up. I never felt like I belonged where I was didn't need to be around the people I went to school with. They all wanted me to be like they were or to be something I was not. So once I was able to, I left that crowd and finally found the dude I was supposed to be!
Yourself
That is right! Even your own self can bring you down! Self-criticism is often associated with anxiety, depression, and unhappiness. Your value as a person does not come FROM who you are not but IN who you are, it's all in your character. Stop criticizing yourself! You may not be as good as what other people are. But there is something special and unique about you that they do not have.
Believe me, NOBODY is as good as they want to be and in most cases how they want you to believe they are. I mean look at the dude driving the Lambo or the Mercedes... They are probably in debt up to their eye balls, but on the outside they want to you to think they are doing great and better than you, but on the inside they are dying from anxiety on how they are going to pay their bills and not have that nice car repossessed.
To sum it up, YOU DO YOU BOO! Be yourself and love that crazy imperfect person that you are!
Everyone is different from each other. That is why you have to stop making comparisons. Just accept and enjoy what you have. Your flaws are part of your individuality. Let it not be the reason as to why you should become your biggest inner critic, but let it be the best part of you! Because when you learn to accept your flaws, you learn how to manage and even fix them. So embrace your weirdness and enjoy life!
Be Cool, Be Real, and always Abide!
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