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Chinese New Year 2022 is almost here. We are so looking forward to visiting relatives in Penang and Ipoh this time around.
It's a whole new year for all of us. We have not seen our family for Chinese New Year since 2020.
Actually, we have not seen any of our family members for CNY since meeting Bear. We were away for work during the 1st CNY we were together. Since then, working has been a constant struggle for both of us. We're still trying to find our footing and find ways to work together to this very day. It's been 3 years that we have been working together and we've fought quite a bit in the meeting room and in the office room. F-bombs were let off, there was a lot of shouting, and I don't know what really was going on. We've fought so much that Bear does not even want to come to the office at times. She fears that we will be shouting at each other.
We are still trying to work together no matter how much fighting has happened. Both of us have very different styles of working. The way we learn and do things are not matched up. I have my ways, and she has her ways. Eventually, we just have to go about our own ways and do the work that we are assigned. She doesn't see me as a boss, and I feel she doesn't do things to my expectations.
After all the fights and arguments, I am still trying hard to find ways to work together. No matter how many times we have failed to cooperate on work, I am still trying to find ways to work as a team. The best way to do things is according to what we want to do ourselves. What she does, I will not do, and what I do, she doesn't have to do.
Eventually, the best way to work together is to find what we want to do and then assign different tasks for each other without the need to work on something together.
She has her strengths, and we should build on her strengths. As for me, I also have my strengths, and I build on my own strengths.
It's all about finding a way to work together and make things work. No matter how many times we have not been able to see eye to eye or be on the same page, we have not given up on each other.
Looking back at what we have gone through, our fights have not affected our feelings for each other as husband and wife. We still respect each other and talk things out when we are unhappy about something. Thank God I found a keeper. So many people would already have parted ways after what we have gone through.
Many people would be swearing at why we are still together at this point.
I know that I have found someone to be with for the rest of our lives. If not for lifetimes to come.