The case of a child (15) who was jailed for abortion after being raped by his older sister (17) is still rolling. This decision was taken by the District Court (PN) Muara Bulian, Jambi. The child is now filing an appeal accompanied by a legal counsel, while the brother and mother of both are suspects.
Rape itself is a traumatic experience, not easy to forget it. Summarized detikHealth, the following is a collection of advice from psychologists when faced with rape cases.
1 .Stop blaming yourself.
Dr Laura McGuire, educational sex at the university saw many victims blame themselves, as quoted from Cosmopolitan.
"They started, 'well, I know (the violence is) wrong, but I should not keep dating this guy, or be in that situation."
If you blame yourself for what's happening to you, try wondering. If a friend of yours says the same thing as what happened to you, will you still blame them?
2 . If you need help, please contact the professional.
Often with any type of trauma, the first thing our brain does is word, 'let's avoid this and do not think about it and destroy all those feelings,' "says Dr. Mcguire.
"It's a survival method, because if you stop and think about it, you will be destroyed ... Whatever you have to do to survive is good and necessary at that moment."
But if you feel like connecting with an expert therapist to help heal wounds after sexual abuse, feel free to seek professional help.
3 . Do not blame the family too much.
Various comments came, some blamed the family. Do not be too cornered, no matter how the families of the victims actually also need the power to face cases of rape, such as for the case in Jambi, said Vitria Lazzarini, a psychologist from the Foundation Pulih.
"I think the family at that time is trying their best, I do not want to blame the family because it makes them too heavy, so we should focus on the victim's victimization and try to give deterrent effect to the perpetrators. they can be through this difficult situation, "said Vitria.
"The family needs to be strengthened in order to accompany the victim to recover and accompany the perpetrator not to repeat his actions."
4 . Read a book that can strengthen
Often, people do not feel comfortable in their bodies anymore, and that is where many sad memories, "says Dr. McGuire.
And it turns out that physical exercise and reading books can help. Books like 'The Survivor's Guide to Sex' and 'The Sexual Healing Journey' for example are two of them.
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