Lilly's parents may have given Lilly her way waaaayyyy too much to the point where Lilly has taken control of whatever situation she's in

Oh! Lilly is the almighty queen. She is a very smart, good-looking little girl. She has learnt how to get what she wants, and it is working for her. In more than one occasion her mum said she had a very strict upbringing. I often think that in trying to avoid the same happening with her children, she was gone to far towards the other extreme. But, like your daughter's example suggests, 'strict' doesn't mean lack of love! Despite the strict environment you brought her up in, she became a successful, accomplished adult! Congratulations to you my dear :)

I'm a couple of days late viewing your post

Never! You are never late around here! It is my total pleasure having you taking part in these discussions whenever you have the time for it :)

Much love to you always :*