The way our lives are going, the things that happen to us depend not so much on external factors and circumstances but on our deepest beliefs, on our attitude, our subconscious patterns of thinking and behavior. In other words, our lives reflect our subconscious programming.
Understanding the power of the subconscious, the positive thinking, and the various methods such as confirmation and visualization, helps us begin to work on reprogramming our subconscious. Many of us take the spiritual path by learning to accept the world as it is and striving to rise above the limits and desires of the ego-mind.
Often, however, we are starting to build a new vision for ourselves and the world without clearing our old subconscious programs. Excited by new ideas and insights, desiring to become a "new person" and to change our lives for the better, we unconsciously suppress our feelings, try to forget the past, ignore our problems, deny what is in us, to deceive ourselves.
But man's psyche is a complex multi-layered system. The conscious part that is on the surface occupies a very small percentage of it. The vast majority includes the subconscious, which consists of different levels. Some of our subconscious thoughts can be realized and analyzed by simply redirecting our attention. There are, however, deeper layers hidden from our consciousness, which we can only reach through special techniques - this is the so-called unconscious, where our hidden desires and impulses are. Past thoughts and memories can be "wiped out" by consciousness, but they govern the thoughts and feelings of a person from the sphere of the unconscious.
According to psychoanalysis, the unconscious does not include everything that is not conscious, but rather only what is actively suppressed by conscious thoughts or what the person denies and does not want to admit.
If we start building new beliefs and ideas and at the same time suppressing our feelings that are still in us, we push them deeper into the unconscious, so deep that we no longer have access to them. However, they still exist there. In this way we turn our subconscious into our enemy. We cannot make a real change if we do not go deep into these layers to clear the garbage. Otherwise, "change" remains only on the surface, as a mask behind which we try to hide from ourselves.
You may have thought you forgave a person, but something happens that brings you unsuspected feelings and you realize how much pain and anger you have covered in yourself?
Or do you tend to repeat that life is wonderful, that you accept it as it is that you only see the good, but you feel tension, anxiety or sickness? And you ask yourself - "Have I misled so far? So I did not forgive myself, so I did not accept the world as it is and I cannot really be over my problems? "
Why is this happening?
When we begin to change, we influence our beliefs on a conscious level. Certainly, affirmations are gradually accepted by the subconscious and become automatic thoughts. Along with them, however, old subconscious beliefs and depressed feelings remain in us. And while we are convinced that we have already accepted the new beliefs, there is another set of subconscious levels. It has no place to go if we do not get it out of the blue. There is a conflict between consciousness and subconscious. Dr. Bruce Lipton, author of "Biology of Belief," writes:
"And what happens when beliefs in the subconscious are in conflict with the wishes of consciousness? Uniquely, the subconscious always wins, as it is 1 million times more powerful in processing information. "
Neuroscience proves that ninety-five to ninety-nine percent of our behavior is directly derived from the subconscious. But if it is not cleared from the old programs, how can it accept the new ones? The quantum physicist Vadim Zeland also repeatedly emphasizes that in order to achieve the desired, there must be a synergy between soul and reason.
I had a moment when I thought I had accepted some circumstances in my life and that I was over the problem that stood before me. But it happened that life put me in a situation that brought out my true feelings deeply buried in me. Then I realized that I did not actually accept what was real, and everything was on the surface. There was still a resistance in me that I was trying to cover up.
At that moment I was asking - "Why, after I have accepted what Is, I feel bad? Is not everything as it should be?" I found in the words of Eckhart Tolle:
"True acceptance would instantly transform these feelings. If you really deeply know that everything is "in the right order" as you say, and which is undoubtedly true, would you have any negative feelings at all? Without judging, without resisting what is, they would not arise. You have in your mind the idea that "everything is fine", but you do not believe it deeply, so the old psycho-emotional models of resistance remain intact. That's why you feel bad."
I realized that spirituality, as well as positive thinking, can be an escape from reality. Not that they are a bad thing, not that they are a kind of illusion. But if we do not clear the "waste" of the subconscious, the spiritual path can be like building a house on a rotten base. Yes, it will be new, beautiful and magnificent, but it can collapse any moment.
How can we achieve a real change?
Neither affirmations nor visualization, or even meditation, will have a lasting effect if we do not release the feelings that torture us and if we do not cope with the resistance in us. For true change, deep penetration is necessary. We need to recognize and acknowledge the deepest beliefs as much as they do not like.
By making statements when trying to forgive someone or accept a situation, always keep an eye on the feedback you receive in response. What do you feel - do you feel anger, disapproval, resistance? If you say, "I accept my life" or your job, or this situation, or this person, listen to the voice that comes from inside. Do you not hear the voice protesting - "how not, I will never forgive him, I hate him," or "how will he accept his work, it is disgusting, I cannot stand it"? Do not cross this voice immediately with the words, "Shut up," do not stop the ocean of feelings rising in you. Write down on one sheet all the thoughts and feelings that come out of you and do not judge for them. Accept them with love and start slowly, step by step to convert them. Be patient and do not force yourself. For a change to be true, a deep understanding and acceptance of the new is needed.
Pay attention to your dreams. Since they are messages from our subconscious, they often show us what is wrong in us and help us to realize our true feelings. (I will write more about dreams in my next post.)
The body also brings very accurate messages to us. If you often experience discomfort, tension, anxiety, fear or fatigue, this means there is something deep within you that you need to pay attention to and which you may be trying to hide.
Of course, the discovery of new "layers" that we need to work on is a normal process. As we develop, there will always be a need for "repairs" - from throwing out old unnecessary items or processing and strengthening the base. After all, this may be one of the engines that pulls us forward. I haven't found the right ways to clear my own subconscious, yet.
But this hasn't stopped me from trying.
Thank you for reading!
Sources:
Bruce Lipton - "Biology of Belief"
Vadim Zeland
Eckhart Tolle
SimplifyingInterfaces
Wikipedia - Unconscious mind
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