Blaming technology especially social media for bringing people apart has become popular today. Making people feel guilty about themselves and those who are close to them. Social media itself is full of quotes, photos and article demonizing social media.
But as every conviction in our lives we can approach social media with another perspective.
Let’s be frank, when two people are together (Couples, friends, or family) and both (or one) of them is completely taken by social media paying no attention to each other, they are not interested in being with each other in the first place. This implies that what really important to either of them is accessible at this moment only through social media. As social media is not an occupation itself rather a portal to what really feels important. If they actually like being together, social media wouldn’t have made them ignore each other. But when they are together because they are supposed to be together, out of duty, out of habit or simply because they don’t have another choice they can be easily distracted by social media.
If you are the one who is ignored, you shouldn’t take it personally as each one has different interests, dreams, goals and demands. You can’t simply be the right person for everyone. You shouldn’t seek others attention unless they give it voluntarily. If someone is not interested in being with you the only thing you may get from asking/forcing him to be attentive is fake attention and interest which will subside eventually. You shall consider insecurity you feel that makes someone’s interest is crucial to your well being. You shall simply pardon yourself and find someone who is already interested in you, if you can’t find one it is even better as you have the chance to take care of yourself, be emotionally independent and find your own worthiness apart from anyone.
If you are the one who finds what he likes in social media, making new ties, finding new activities that are more appealing to you, this is exactly what you should be doing.
At the same time social media severs social ties it builds another new real, authentic and meaningful ones.
Someone may lose touch, connection with those who are physically close but he gets in touch with those who are mentally or emotionally resemble him, those who are already close on many levels rather than the physical one. Many people are more likely to find those who share the same interests, hobbies, mindsets, problems and suffering with them on social media than in their immediate societies. They can benefit from their experiences. Find solutions for their chronic problems.
On many levels social media brings like-minded people together, consolidates their energy making synergy out of them. Which has benefited humanity more than ever. Think of how many causes had been brought to public attention by the pressure of social media. How many ideas find support through social media that couldn’t be found earlier.
Thanks for reading.