Anger can be a quite useful emotion to come out of situations of personal abuse, but in the long run can be detrimental to you.
Let me explain, the thing about anger is that a double sided emotion in relation to the healing process. When you first wake up from a toxic relationship or narcissistic abuse, among others, it is normal to feel anger. The energy of anger can motivate you to take action to defend your rights, your boundaries, your life, even save you from further abuse.
On the other hand, if in the long run, you still haven't process and released all the anger, that means that the emotional attachment to the abuser is still there, and ultimately you are not totally free yet. You are conditioned by past memories and events that will tint your present moment, your effectiveness, and ability to find peace in your life.
Freedom comes when one day you are able to look back to your past, remember the abuse that you went through but you no longer feel disturbed by it, there is no more emotional reaction to it, then you move your life forward without being hijacked by your past.
Jaime Grace
Psychotherapist
