Forgiveness is like tango, you need two to dance. You need the one that asks you forgiveness and then you can decide if you are ready or not to forgive. All other one lateral forgiveness is just pretense and self delusion.
One sided forgiveness doesn't change your personal story of abuse, it doesn't heal you. One sided forgiveness is just a make believe for some transcendental addicts that like to abandon themselves while floating above their own personal story of abuse. This is called dissociation and doesn't help you to move forward into your healing.
To heal one has to endure going back and face the suffering, allow to feel it, accept it, make sense of it, and make it part of our making. To do this one has to work through what happened, the raw experience, and learn the lessons in it. Doing this we heal our hearts and abandon the role of victim, to a new and broader life, with renew adventures and excitement.
Remember, it takes courage for abuse victims to voice their story and move towards their heart's healing.
Jaime Grace
Psychotherapist
