Your parents have been young too and they most likely did things their parents forbid. This is what parenting is about: setting boundaries, that their child will pass.
If you were opening on what you did, they would probably tell what they did when they were young...
I mean, I don't think that would surprise or deceived your parents if they knew about it, this is part of teen life.
RE: Shame and fear of who we have been. Why?