You know, friends, you can consider yourself an intelligent person, you can seem like an intelligent person, or you can, if you treat yourself correctly, be an intelligent person, really smart. And we need to be smart not for someone else, but first of all for ourselves, to be able to solve all the tasks facing us and achieve all the goals set for ourselves. And here that, all the same to be, instead of to seem and not to imagine itself clever, it is necessary for the person to concern to itself critically. A critical attitude towards oneself allows a person to constantly improve himself, develop his mental abilities and become stronger. Let's understand in this article how we should treat ourselves, on one side, to love ourselves, and on the other, to identify in ourselves the shortcomings and weaknesses in order to correct them.
Who are we really?
Let's first figure out how most of us treat ourselves. And most of us see ourselves as they want to see. And not always our views and our opinion of ourselves are objective, one might even say that it is never objective. We tend to think of ourselves better than we really are. And this is normal. One must love oneself, that others should love him. Otherwise, he simply will not take care of himself, let alone that no one else will want to take care of him. People see in us those whom we show them, but we show them what we want to see in ourselves. Therefore, it is better to have an overestimate opinion of yourself than an understated one. But we do not just need to think about ourselves well, we also need to strive for this good, that is, to become better, smarter, more perfect. And how to do it, if you are completely satisfied with yourself, why should you strive for anything at all, if from your point of view, everything is good with you? But in fact to aspire to something more you need, how not to twist. Otherwise, people will start to degrade. There is no intermediate state in this world between development and degradation, we are either developing or degrading, the third is not given. Therefore, even having a very high opinion of oneself loved, we must look for flaws in ourselves, find them, and then correct them. We do not even need to consider our weaknesses, our shortcomings, our imperfection - something bad. We just do not need to put up with them, with all these shortcomings. We just can tell ourselves that we are not perfect enough in one place or another and that we need to correct something in ourselves. First of all, we must consider ourselves - not smart enough. Do not be stupid, why should we insult ourselves like that, but just not smart enough. It's normal, acceptable for us, right? Look at yourself from the side, and you will see that you are not really very smart, not as smart as you would like. And after that you will have an occasion to do yourself.
Self-evaluation.
We are friends, we must be greedy to the point that it will be of use to us. And self-improvement, no doubt, will bring us great benefits, because getting better, we will live better. Therefore, it is advantageous for us to find faults in ourselves, in order to correct them, to make our life better. There are, however, such people who, on the contrary, think of themselves worse than they really are, and this is also a problem for them. On the one hand, they see all their shortcomings, but on the other, they have so many, in their opinion, that they do not even have something to hook on to start working on themselves. When a person of very low opinion of himself, then he simply is not sure that he will be able to make himself better, without someone's help. Sometimes such people need the help of a psychologist. Although, what really there sometimes, in fact, always. You understand that it is critical to treat yourself - it's not only the shortcomings in yourself to see how to be able, but also the dignity. After seeing in oneself only flaws, a person, or rather, his cunning mind, can use them as an excuse for his own laziness, which prevents a person from working on himself and developing. So no, this focus will not pass with the fact that everything is awful in a person and that's why it's impossible to fix it, and therefore you do not need to do it. Any person can be made better, and one who already considers himself the crowning creature of nature, and one who considers himself to be her mistake. We all can, and I believe we should, get better. And we do not necessarily have to be better than everyone, it's enough to be better than yesterday. Do not look at other people and compare yourself with them, although sometimes it is useful to do. We need to be able to compare ourselves today with ourselves yesterday, and understand what we have achieved.
We, of course, know that there is no ideal, for the ideal is that a person strives for him, not to be. And when we are striving for something, we live. But we know for sure that everything in this world that can not be touched can become better. We can improve everything in our lives for our own good. And that's what concerns us, while we are learning, developing, improving - we live. And to learn, we need to feel the need for it, and to feel it, we must be unhappy with ourselves, we need to find in ourselves something that we do not like so much in us, that we want to change something. And in order to find in ourselves something that we may not like, we must understand that we are imperfect. And if a person does not understand that he is imperfect, then he is either stupid or naive. And in either case - he hurts himself. Such a person will never achieve anything significant in his life, he never realizes his dreams and does not find out about what he really was capable of. Such a person will simply burn his life. I do not know how you, dear readers, but I do not like this approach to life. I really want to leave something behind in this world, something good, which people will remember for a long time. And for this, I must be a sufficiently developed person, right? To burn your life, we do not need to make much effort, but to turn it into a fairy tale, here we must try. But it's so cool to take and create, making yourself and this world better. Is not this happiness?
A person who knows how to react critically to himself, overcoming the resistance of his Ego, is a very interesting person, it is pleasant to communicate with him, he has a lot to learn, there is something in him that attracts us to him. Such a person believes in himself and others, he is full of energy, his life is boiling. About the purpose of such a person you can not even say - they are grandiose, and perhaps even unreachable, but he will still strive for them, because this is the meaning of his life. Critical attitude to himself allows a person, changing himself, to change the world around him and the people around him, mainly for the better. So, everything is very simple, or we become smarter, and as a consequence, stronger, and we adjust the world around us to our own interests, or the world will dictate our conditions to us, and we will have to adjust and adapt to it.