At birth, man has two forms of his existence. On the one hand, we are biological beings - the most developed animal on the planet known to date, on the other - social beings who produce and enjoy material and spiritual values achieved through joint efforts with other people. The body and the nervous system of man are born adapted to live together with other humans. The ability to connect with others is the basis of humanity. Therefore, the problems of alienation and isolation exist since man has existed. Perhaps you will recognize yourself and your attitude towards the state of loneliness in some of the following revelations:
Historically, whenever it comes to self-development and personal development, one of the main topics is building up self-confidence. When life becomes difficult or we face a challenge, we are usually told to get hold of it and repeat: "I am good enough, smart enough and beautiful enough ... Yes, self-esteem has its function and that's probably is the most important aspect of the human psyche, and self-confidence comes directly from it. The problem that all experts unanimously accept is that self-confidence depends on two main criteria:
Self-esteem is based on our personal judgment of our own worth.
Self-esteem is based on the opinion of others about us.
Our self-confidence depends to a large extent on the validation of the approval of others. Consequently, the concept of self-confidence has changed significantly in modern theories of personal development.
The recent paradigm suggested that love for oneself or self-consciousness were synonymous with narcissism and selfishness. But what psychologists find is that self-awareness is the one that benefits society as a whole. When a person has the ability to take care of himself and does so, he is not only more prepared to cope with the challenges of life but also becomes more involved with other people.
Self-awareness means accepting what you are. It is about how well you are aware of your own shortcomings, your own advantages, and your understanding. For many people this may sound like an excuse for mistakes and failures, but it is not. Self-awareness means acceptance, not self-deception and justification. Instead of saying, "I'm strong, I can do whatever I want ...", it's better to think in the direction of: "I have my strengths and weaknesses. My strengths are ... my weaknesses are ...
Self-awareness means accepting and opening yourself to your own suffering, not running away from it, denying it, but generating the desire to relieve it, to cure it, to be kind to yourself. Self-awareness includes the ability to understand your own pain, failures and incompetence without using judgmental judgments. Self-awareness is a mental adjustment. What you can do to develop it:
Be honest with yourself
Most of us have a friend who always tells us everything they are, without being interested in the impact that this may have on our fragile ego. In fact, this is most often what we are looking for in a friend. There is no reason not to be such a person yourself. But this should not be a process of self-devaluation, but rather a self-assessment process. It is good to be honest with yourself and your feelings before you can find out where the weaknesses we all have are. This is important because, until you are aware of them, you will never be able to pay attention to them and overcome them.
Self-reliance turns into self-reliance
When you become more conscious about yourself, your feelings, inner struggles and strengths, something unbelievable you begin to realize the strengths, weak spots and internal struggles in others. If you are walking around, thinking that you are impassable, you begin to think that because other people are not, they are weaker than you. There is no such thing as impassable or untouchable; in life, so that, knowing it, you start to look differently at the people around you.
We have power, even in our weakness
Most importantly, while you are dealing with your feelings, instead of separating from them, you will learn where you fit best in any situation. This is a combination of the two elements listed above. Without faith in yourself you can not be strong. But faith in yourself develops in humility in man. Removing this contradiction is one of the most difficult tasks in life and personality and this best justifies the contradiction that at first may appear in you and the wandering between the two extremes of underestimation and overestimation of one's own personality. Being able to look at yourself quite honestly is not an easy task and is a skill that is constantly trained. To underestimate or overestimate is actually what we most often fail in life. Looking at yourself with sober judgment is an ability that few possess, but everyone can develop within themselves. Looking at the privacy of one's own person is like looking at each other, but with the eyes of a good friend who loves us as we are and desires the best for us. And do not forget: False modesty is also as bad as vanity