This article will be useful to both social engineers and businessmen or just an ordinary person who wants to establish strong trusting relationships with his friends and relatives.
Inheritance of the interlocutor's behavior
Regardless of which conversation topic you choose, its key will be non-verbal communication. Gestures and facial expressions, posture and movement - copy them and your interlocutor will feel that you live with him in the same rhythm, and therefore - and think in one direction.Spend more time
Spending more time with someone else, we learn better each other, we remove the uncomfortable state of communication, we begin to speak frankly and, of course, we are sympathetic. Do you want to please a colleague? Start to correspond with her after work, wonder how she spent the weekend, ask her how the fighting situation in the workplace is during your absence.Praise the interlocutor
One of the most curious phenomena in psychology is the spontaneous transfer of qualities. The way you characterize your interlocutor and which adjectives you use to express praise to him, "makes" him subconsciously associate them with your character. Do not forget that this phenomenon works in the opposite direction: telling a person negative adjectives about his character, he similarly applies it to you.Positive emotions
Whatever it was, we always subconsciously experience the positive emotions of our interlocutor. Try not to smile, looking at the laughter of your friend or just a casual passerby.
Do not be afraid of mistakes.
Do not be afraid to seem imperfect. Making this or that mistake, you confirm your adherence to ordinary people. And by educating yourself in the ability to laugh at yourself, you also give others a good mood :)Find the general and concentrate on it
Talking with someone on a subject close to your interlocutor, you engage the so-called "effect of attraction by similarity." The most interesting thing here is that the greatest liking is caused by the general negative features and attitude to something.
Perceive the other as he desires
It is logical that when the presentation of our interlocutor about us is analogous to our idea of ourselves, then we begin to feel very strong feedback and such relationships, often, become very strong. Take a simple rule: people want to be seen the way they see themselves.Share your personal
Start with something in common and go smoothly to some frank topic. For example, talk about a movie that was premiered recently in a movie theater, then you can tell that you have not visited that movie theater for a long time and it has changed a lot, the last time you were there with your father, and then you and he still walked at night through the streets of the city and it was very exciting. Just do not have to invent anything, otherwise you will simply begin to sink in your own lies.Ask for help
Asking someone about something, there is a strong sense of reciprocity because of all sorts of reasons: the interlocutor may feel higher than you, feel useful to you, may begin to trust you more, because he will think that after the service you will be better to treat him.Let the speaker talk about himself
Talking about yourself, and especially seeing the approving nods from our interlocutor, we experience incredible pleasure. Researchers at Harvard University once compared it with satisfaction from food, money, and, sorry, sex.Your behavior should demonstrate adherence to the interlocutor
In fact, this leads to a very logical conclusion: feeling that a person has a good disposition towards us, we ourselves begin to treat him in a similar way.
