Every family in the basis of mutual understanding is the desire of every member of the family to respect and listen to all the other members. A foster child depends on family relations parents, often because the mother and father have problems between them, begin to transfer them to the child. In the end, the child of a full-fledged personality becomes the subject of compensation for a failed relationship with husband/wife. It is therefore important to learn to treat each other with patience, understanding and to protect the teenager from the personal conflicts of their parents.
How to get teenager to do homework?
In order to figure out how to get teenager to do homework, need more detail to find out his interests, and then explain what he can be beneficial and useful is a good school. It is appropriate only to real facts, which coincide with the life goals of a teenager, because the rules and dogmas "because I have to" he rejects completely. After a detailed dialogue, give the child time to reflect on your arguments and make a decision.
Often a negative attitude towards school and everything connected with it, caused by problematic relationships with peers, teachers, etc, Parents need to find out the cause of a child's difficulties. And help him to overcome the problem. If the teenager is being systematically attacked by other children, do not expect that the problem will resolve itself. To solve it, often only by adults.
Responsibilities of the adolescent in the family
To the responsibilities of the adolescent in the family is not a source of many conflicts, must adhere to the following rules:
- Decide with the child that he will be fully responsible for the cleanliness and order in their own room. Maintains cleanliness, he decides when and how to do the cleaning itself exercise it. Negotiating with a teenager, do not forget to indicate the scope of these "when" and "how".
- Try to do the cleaning together (each taking over "their" territory).
- Try not to order much more efficient and friendly interaction.
- Don't hesitate to ask for help. Let him feel that helps you, as a grown adult.
- When necessary, gently but firmly remind the child about his responsibilities. Sometimes the teenager simply forgets about promises.
- Create a friendly atmosphere. Let the child know that, for example, preparing a meal will be complemented by friendly conversation.
To adolescence the child is shown such a penchant for cleanliness that was planted in him from childhood, so to dramatically change the situation will fail. It takes patience and understanding. If you try to negotiate with the child, gradually, he will meet you.