Fear – a sense common to all, regardless of gender, age, nationality, status and origin. Someone struggling with their phobia my entire adult life. Someone who is humble and lives with them then subjecting them to the will of the mind, succumbing to chaotic emotional processes. There are those who did become hostage to their own fears, living life in the shell, the case – as you want. And yet, not so devil as he is painted – to cope with the problem.
This so hated people feeling is based one of the most important instincts – the instinct of self-preservation. Such phobias we usually do not give a report, they are included themselves in the moment and in most cases do not prevent us from living. But if it does hurt the scope of this instinct, it can lead to serious psychological trauma, where of course the person to deal with the problem requires professional help. With this significant amendment will go to the second category of fears, let's call them purchased. They are of no benefit and, as a rule, are a stone around the neck which is constantly pulling down.
Not so important whose fault it was in our minds, these fears appeared, because, ultimately, nurtured them, it is we and only we get rid of them. This, perhaps, will be the first Council in the struggle with their own phobias is to stop looking for blame that fear appeared. It is necessary to analyze when and what people or events influenced his appearance, but this is just analysis without claim, offense, without razzadorila feelings of rage and anger. Any of these emotions is destructive, yielding to her impulses, you're unlikely to be able to move on and just lose time on pointless torment himself.
To be honest with yourself – this is the second piece of advice for those trying to understand and to eradicate their fears. About it it is unnecessary to speak out loud to friends, relatives, colleagues, etc.. moreover, you can even deny it if the phrase in this direction will be performed to Your address from their anyone's mouth, but alone admit it "Why am I afraid?". But wait – first your answer may not be true, and the truth will be hidden under several layers.
We fear what do not know something. The basis of all acquired fears lies the misunderstanding.
Moreover, misunderstanding may be caused by a lack of knowledge and uncertainty of the situation. In the first case, perfect final phrase of the preceding example: "I'm afraid to feel like a worthless loser." The feeling of failure befalls those who are not able to achieve something. The reasons here can be quite different, but how often people like to blame their mistakes on fate, fortune, luck, forgetting that in most cases success is the result of overwork and constant work, including work on yourself. As a result, the person who is constantly working, learning, evolving, and strives to acquire new knowledge, much less to be afraid to make a mistake, and therefore get a portion of the public disapproval, to feel like a loser.
People are confident that the results of their labors appears in the eyes of the public and successful, will rarely think about the fact that he may be alone. First, because it is able to soberly assess their knowledge, skills, experience, and understand that their presence will not allow him to sink to the bottom. Secondly, confident people simply do not think that it will remain or may remain single. He lives in the here and now, he affecting your life without thinking about "what will happen if..."
Stop being afraid = to begin to learn. No matter how trite, but the whole point lies in this. There are miracles of hypnosis, eliminating fears; there is a unique psychological techniques, it does wonders. However, it is good, there are no magic recipes – there is honesty, awareness and work on the problem that man must do for himself. It is necessary to add one remark, as would have seemed appropriate to mention the problem of the struggle with the fear of such a thing as laziness, it is, nevertheless, is the place to be. If Your fear is associated with unwillingness to work and learn, it is not fear, it's laziness. And it already absolutely other recipes.