Nostalgia does not come alone and always brings its friends: reflection, self-interest, apathy. Always. We just do not notice it. It all depends on your state of mind. If you are disgustingly ill and have some problems, then any recollection of the good old times will cast you into despondency and searching for yourself. If everything in life is good, then you will feel just light sadness about the good old days. The ocheloe is quite useful for the psyche. Over the years, we are turning into more intelligent and at the same time stale, tired and insolent people. Therefore, sometimes you need to make this one look back, in order to remind you of what is joy and purity. This is a kind of oasis, from which you can draw strength to return to the current day. I must say that now, when the confidence in the future is less and less, such memories are very important.
Nostalgia is the poison that fills the chalice of reflection. Nostalgia is a sad happiness. We remember how good it was once, but with longing realize that all this can not be returned. That's why it's a painful memory. The departed seems to be unforgettable, unique and unrepeatable. You feel nostalgia for something that has made you happy, full, perfect. Nostalgia is multifaceted: for the native city, for childhood, beautiful and free from problems, that you can not return, for old friends. Something like a lost paradise. Thanks to nostalgia, we remember the idealized past. There are so few happy moments in life that we remember almost all of them. And idealize. Thus, the feeling is dangerous, because paradise is always the fruit of our memories. That's why your ex looks like an ideal woman to you.
The most terrible thing is to get addicted to nostalgia, living only with memories. People who are prone to living in a wonderful past, usually can not adapt to the present. It begins to seem that it will never be as good as before. This form of melancholy, which does not allow people to live in the present and look confidently into the future, drives a man into a corner, because he does not like either today's day or tomorrow's. The past, unlike the present and the future, does not give rise to anxiety. People with longing remember the former love, if in the present they do not have it. Or about a carefree past, when they are having a lot of problems right now. Over the years, discoveries are getting fewer and fewer, and nothing will impress you as much as the first kiss or the first party. Therefore, people take drugs. But the more energy we give to the past, the less we have left for the present and the future.
And what should I do? There is quite a legitimate question: what to do? I would like to say: "Start to live a full life, less nervous, look for the beautiful in the simple." Well, yes, in principle, everything is true. Only it sounds very fuzzy and abstract. Probably, if everything was so simple, there would never be such a problem. Therefore, life experience suggested that there is only one way to not give in to the feeling. It is necessary to fill your life with new impressions. Ideally, every week you should have something new: a new cocktail, a new film, a new occupation. The feeling of the new dulls all this stuff. And do not break contacts with people. The events of our past are determined by people, and often we miss them, but not places. Take this into consideration.
