Do I regret the things I said? Yes, of course, especially words exchanged in the heat of emotions. That's usually because I'm defensive of somethings I hold dear - values, principles or sometimes the plain stupid old ego.
I've been taught long along that when I have nothing better to say, just say nothing at all. That's a constant struggle, and sure needs a big improvement.
But on the other spectrum, do I regret things I wanted to say, but didn't? Actually, I do, more than that other situation, sometimes. It's usually missed opportunities - like telling your loved one you love them, voicing out your principles, defending the defenceless, righting the wrongs.
The trick, I realised in both situations, is knowing the timing. Utter a word too soon, and that leads to damage recovery. Say a word too late, and the ship has sailed, never to turn back.
But do not let the anxiety of learning the right timing stop you from attempting at all, for then the outcome is sure - you will never master the art of timing and articulation. Instead, choose to reflect at the end of each day by asking yourself:
- Were there times today when shutting up would have been a lot better?
- Did I really listen enough before responding, or was I just plain reacting?
- Could I have said it better?
- Were there opportunities that I've missed because I took too long to pick the right words, and what can I do better the next time it happens?
- Is there anyone I need to apologize to?
That last one is important. :)
You don't become wise through inaction. You achieve wisdom through evaluated experiences and holistic observations, usually of yourself.
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