Man, I feel for you. I live with a child with autism and it's tough. I was proud of him last year, when the school told him and us that the very next day he would be taking the regular bus instead of the special bus. He had taken the regular bus once and had a meltdown. We were furious with the school for such short notice, but thankfully he handled it well.
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