Most ppl think perfectionism is a good thing or at least not so bad thing. What’s wrong with working hard to reach big goals, to be your best, to be improving yourself? I want to show you how the idea of The perfect SELF creates all the suffering in your life and relationships. It’s problematic because it’s not part of reality, whether you have a positive or negative self-image.
What if you could live your full potential in every moment, from the place of who you really are, not from the expectations of the perfect image of you that is just an illusion in the mind?
Here are the 5 perfectionist spells:
1st Spell: Not knowing who you are
Your best self, your perfect self, that is an image in your mind, it’s a mental picture held in your imagination about how you should be, and it has nothing to do with WHO YOU actually ARE. Because trying to improve your imaginary self is to embark on a perpetual journey to seek security, love, approval, sex, promotions, marriage, money… and it will never be enough. So, I will show you who you are as a centering point, from which you will make fulfilling choices in any area of your life. Nobody else can define you by making you angry or insecure, when you define yourself first.
2nd Spell: Not Knowing what you want
Do you truly want certain things, people and experiences in your life, or do you only want the way they make you feel? I will show you how we get so confused between reality and imagination that stops us from getting from what we truly desire. The constant search for money, love, sex, beauty or security will never end, no matter how much of it you have. Actually the more you have, the more it comes with anxiety around losing it. And You will discover for yourself that you don’t really have a choice when you are afraid of losing something because the fear is controlling you.
3rd Spell: Not knowing your fear
Maybe you know what your fear is but do you really know it? It’s like knowing the name of the CEO in the company you work for, but do you really know who she is? Underneath the perfectionist spell is fear of abandonment. We are scared of being left alone. However, being abandoned doesn’t crate any suffering, you’ll find out what really does!
4th SPELL: Not knowing your value
Behind perfectionism is deeply rooted belief of worthlessness or feeling you are not good enough. Trying to increase your self-worth or self-esteem does not bring any fulfillment in long term because your true value is not what you think, and cannot be raised in reality.
5th Spell: Not knowing how not to take criticism personally
Perfectionists have extreme sensitivity to criticism. I will show you what curing schizophrenia can tell us about seeing beyond our own illusions. And you’ll discover that Conflict is always filled with assumptions that are not part of reality.
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