In the case of love, it is much easier to begin than to end; and is that, to say goodbye, it takes, above all, courage and tactics and, of course, try not to hurt the other person.
If we have decided to raise the break, the situation will not be easy; the fear of the other's reaction and the feeling of guilt paralyze action and, on many occasions, delay it to unsuspected limits.
Sometimes we even get to not make decisions simply by avoiding the suffering of our partner.
When it comes time to end a relationship many people do not know how to do it and choose the most tortuous ways. For example, keeping silent, repressing or hiding our true feelings, not daring to face the problem ..., will generate aggressive behaviors that further aggravate the situation.
BEST WAY TO CHOOSE
Of course, before taking that step and ending the relationship, we must be sure and be very clear about what we want, as they are often hurried decisions in the face of the couple's crisis and talking and making small changes do not have to to end in a break. Therefore, if we have realized clearly that it is a temporary crisis, that the relationship has really come to an end, then, from that moment, the sooner we act better, because giving long leads to nothing.
Between going to buy tobacco and never return and endure an endless agony of tears and fights, there are intermediate roads. The ideal and most advisable is to dialogue; speak and explain as clearly as possible what we have decided, and say it with firmness and serenity. And, of course, withstand the downpour. Even if we choose the most opportune moment, we will have to be willing to listen to unpleasant reproaches and to witness scenes that are hard and difficult to cope with.
Probably one of the most used ways to end a relationship, but not even the best, is to cause grievances, that is, to provoke unpleasant behavior so that it is our partner that ends. Usually actions are often taken that are strong enough for the other to be deeply disappointed.
PAINFUL WAR
This system, although of almost fulminating results, generates very painful wars and an irreconcilable enmity. On the other hand, this is the classic behavior of immature personalities who, out of fear of guilt, are capable of hurting for free. In addition to the unethical results that can cause psychological conflicts in the individual himself. in short, lying about our feelings and hiding a lack of love is a double-edged sword that can have psychological consequences, such as a neurosis.
When the end comes we must be sincere and leave us with strange tricks that, apparently, would solve the problem of facing a very pleasant and sometimes very painful situation.