The clock at 3 o'clock at night. You are lying on the bed, there is no sleep in sight. The sound of one's voice is heard in your ears, "You will not be with", "You are ineligible, inferior", "You can not" etc.
And this man yourself!
Sometimes the person in the mirror gives you pain? Does your breath stop seeing him? Do you always blame him for every problem or failure every day? Do you live with her, her work, her personality dislike, even hate you?
If the answers are 'yes', then you will say that you are a self loather, which means you hate yourself.
We all blame ourselves for more or less of the problems or mistakes. But a self-borne Lothar, he blames himself for everything, punishes himself for what he does not have any relation with!
Of course, there are many times when people take shelter in Self-Lothing to motivate themselves. But none of us, however, hates our own births or ourselves. According to psychologists, this is due to environmentalism.
How do you know that you are being victim of self-assault?
- Before you do any work, you put your goal far more than it should be. Think of it, though, whether you succeed or fail, the fruit will not hurt you anymore. If you decide to set your goals below, you may not have to do so much to reach it, but you do not understand that you are losing yourself to yourself while doing this.You do not even know how you are constantly shortening your competency and you will be seeing that in the future you are losing many opportunities, due to lack of effort and confidence.
2.You are constantly blaming yourself, sometimes for an event that you have no relation with. Always have a sense of guilt in you. You have always shrunk for minor mistakes. You take responsibility for everything you take on your shoulders.
Let's say that no work is done for you in your group, you are not responsible for it, but you are taking it on your shoulders. Unconsciously you apologize to others. Without any reason, you are making yourself small in front of everyone. You will be as insignificant as you humans, the more you will have an impact on your daily life. Because where you can not dignify yourself, another person will give you that status?
3.Many times, many people insult themselves while doing so. It is a type of reverse psychology. "Can not do that? What have I learned so many days? "Or" If I can not do this, I am ineligible to live in society "- a lot of such kind of encouragement gives me some kind of encouragement. It is useful for many people. But it is a questionable fact that the negative behavior of a person is good for the mental health of the person. Because such behavior brings frustration and anxiety to the next.
4.You are just looking at your own mistakes. We are human; Life is the only wrong decision. But a self-styled Lothar just remembers time for his mistakes. As a result, he seems to himself that it is not possible to make the wrong decision by him. He begins to see his wisdom and qualities in suspense, constantly striking himself. It does not have any improvement in it, but self-confidence decreases day by day. He always remembers, "I can not", "I can not do anything good", "not to be" etc.
Then the way?
1.First of all, you should set goals according to what you want to do in your mind. If you have the possibility of failure, you should be encouraging yourself in that work because success comes from failure. Do not be frightened, if you do not have the first kadamata you can move forward.
2.Unnecessarily let yourself blame yourself and leave the habit of being kneeling on others. If you want to apologize for no reason, you are weakening your position, and you are weakening your own weight. You may then see that when you seek forgiveness for any mistake, your sincerity will not be taken seriously.Because you drink the lime from the person is forgiven for the people! The burden of your words, your position has become so weak that your sincere remorse will not be paid any more. So unanswered forgiveness is no more.
3.Encourage yourself positively. Inspire yourself by saying that "I have worked hard so I can do it" or "have gone so far, but if I try the best now, I will be successful". If successful, give yourself strength and give yourself comfort if you fail. "Now what has happened now, it will be the next time" - Encourage yourself in such a way. Learn to smash your back.
4.Think of the right decision or action with your own mistakes. Think of your positive qualities and learn to be wrong. Remember, there are many things to learn from failure.
5.Compare yourself with yourself rather than comparing yourself with others. Improve yourself in work-and-practice Always keep an eye on the front. Today's 'you' are more knowledgeable, more worky than last day's 'you'. Become someone whom you need to be proud of.
Self-Loth One type of war with you. You have to fight with another 'I', who always wants to keep you down, wants to destroy you.
"When we do not find anyone to hate, we hate ourselves."
- Chuck Chanayek, Invisible Monsters
Self-criticism is certainly a great quality, but not injustice to yourself. People want for their characteristic nature so that others understand it, accept acceptance from everyone. But the people who can not accept themselves, how will they expect acceptance from another?
"If you hate your behavior, you might even love yourself."
- Chris Jamie, Kylosophy.
The closest person to us is our closest, but our shadow. You are your biggest supporter, most people. Only you can complete yourself, nobody else. So love yourself, keep your head high.
