I wish you did too. I try to explain how I see unconditional love both psychologically and biologically.
And believe me, that dude, no matter how crazy it seems, still has something to gain.
If anything, he satisfies one of the most primitive sides of his mind by staying in that relationship.
Some people are 'trained' to subconsciously be attracted to what you call "hoes".
I usually call them toxic people.