We all heard that a man has not very much influence on the couple's dynamics. Often a woman has not only the influence on couple's relationship, but she might help the other half to grow as a person. A lady might use her charisma to destroy a guy, as well. A woman's thought process and her behaviour is a very important factor. Nobody can deny that.
I discovered this article in a local newspaper, where they provided a reader with a list if this a woman sometimes does unconciously, thus damaging the relationship or a marriage. So how to improve your marriage without talking about it? I'm going to give you some useful bullet points on this subject.
A woman doesn't allow a guy to be a part of important decisions. Sometimes a woman doesn't allow a guy to make decisions regarding their life as a couple. It also does serious damage to the relationship when a woman let's a guy think he's important or even in power but does make important decisions secretly behind his back.
A woman doesn't let a man to be helpful in everyday life. She does it all by by herself and this might make a guy think that he's unimportant and useless in her life. Such women don't often ask for help and even reproaches a guy that he didn't offer to help in the first place.
A woman is critical to details when a guy is telling a story to their friends etc. She often says that he doesn't remember the right dates, names, places and so on.
A woman is doubtful on a guy's personal opinion. When a guy expresses his opinion she doesn't approve , what might make a guy feel that his opinion is unimportant and that there's no worth paying attention to it.
A woman gives him advises or pushes her ideas without being asked for it. A classic example would be a woman giving advises on what street to chose while they're driving somewhere, that he has to pay attention to traffic lights and mind the signs ,etc. Annoying... isn't it?
Woman says how a guy should feel about certain things, for example: "you should feel embarrassed about it"; "you should feel bad after saying this or that".
A woman often ignores a guy's advice.
A woman makes a guy feel totally incompetent buy telling him he's not good at certain things or he doesn't understand anything about something and that she would go and ask for help and advice elsewhere.
A woman is often in a bad mood. She is irritable, difficult to satisfy, is critical about things. A guy stars to feel like a scapegoat if a lady doesn't understand that's its her who has to try to be more cheerful about life and should ask for some professional advice even. She manipulates him by playing a victim all the time and has excuses for that. My childhood wasn't happy enough, look what did I have to go through in my life, that's how I am, etc.
There are so many things what a lady could choose to do differently to make her and her significant other's relationship work, but she really has to put a lot of effort in it and be very concious. Good luck ladies!