Heartbreak is like an endless stream of rocks hurled at us, the pain, the victimization you feel when you see others in happy relationships can never be compared to anything. It's as is a loved one had been lost, even though you've indeed lost someone precious to the heart.

Almost everyone has gone through this phase and it is that point where you just have to suck up as much pain as you can yet you have to smile. You smile not because all is well, you smile because you have to be strong for others.

Never ending tears for a while becomes a companion to some, others cling to alcohol as their coping mechanism, some become introverts for a while and others become extremely social to dull the pain. Anytime I am toing through a heart break, I simply detach from the cause of it until I am strong enough to stand once more.

Believe me when I say I know how it feels to be heartbroken; the "how I wish" moments, the "what ifs". Moments like that, you wonder if you could have done anything about it.

There are two kinds of heartbreak;

Those you see coming
Those you don't see coming

They both have different ways in which they strike. The first kind inflicts so much pain as you sometimes try to stop it but sadly, you end up failing. It starts with something as little as persistent phone calls from the other person trying to take your partner away. You hear stuffs like "we are just friends so don't worry...trust me" but you know better. Before you know, they start demanding more and more attention from your partner until you start to show cracks, little cracks due to frustration but you have to trust. They start hanging out and you have to trust your partner. Little by little, they start to capitalize on your flaws and frustrate you so your partner can see those flaws. Being human, you react at some point and your partner starts to compare.

Before long, your partner becomes secretive and evasive and all attempts to rectify it ends in a deadlock. Feelings enter and before long, you're evicted from your own relationship.

The second one will break your heart after it happens and it takes a longer period of time for you to recover because it is unexpected. You suddenly just hear the lines; we need to talk and that is that on that!

However, people don't understand that heartbreak doesn't occur only when a relationship ends. It can happen even when you treat your partner far less than they deserve.
Sometimes after pushing your partner away, you realize that they are more important than you think.

I'll share a story when I was in school: a corper who was in a relationship for about six years with a guy. She served a few months before he did and suddenly felt he was no longer good enough after meeting other guys. She even went as far as asking him not to redeploy to her state of service because she wanted to enjoy her freedom with other people. She even broke up with the guy because she felt she had found love with a fellow corper. At the end of the day, the corper changed his number after service and dumped her and she had to go back to the first guy.