What Snigdha was going through was something he did not even discuss with anyone. She shuddered every time her friends made sexual jokes. Every time she loved her husband, she simulated an orgasm because she could barely get one. There came a time if I could no longer pretend.
Yes, it's true, like Snigdha, there are millions of women for whom it is not so easy to have an orgasm as they believe. Some pretend while others lead their lives in doubt. Some may even give up and continue with another partner, hoping to find a solution. It may or may not be a medical cause behind the lack of orgasm. Whatever the idea, it will undoubtedly leave a big scar in your relationship with your partner.
Many, like Snigdha, may have posed the question: "Is it possible to have a great sex life, even without an orgasm?"
If possible
According to experts, it is possible to have a good relationship even if a person does not reach an orgasm. Dr. Sanjay Kumawat, psychiatrist and sexologist at the Fortis Hospital, Mulund, explains. "It is a myth that orgasm is a necessity for the fulfillment of sexual life sexual life, in all its complexity. consists of the fusion of individuals nature, preferences, respect, and space for one another in the relationship of mutual faith, understanding, love, and affection are the cornerstones of this type of relationship, so that with the things above a full sexual life is possible, your partner. "
It's all in your head
Sex is more than merely a physical act. "Yes, it is possible to have a satisfying sex life, even without an orgasm," said Drs. Sameer Malhotra, senior psychiatrist consultant, psychotherapist, and specialist in detoxification, Director of Mental Health and Behavioral Sciences, Max Hospital. "It is seen as a bond and should reflect mutual care, love, affection, and attachment, and these values
add to the overall experience."
Although not everyone is comfortable discussing these problems, it is essential to exclude medical conditions that may be responsible for them. "Sometimes, the couple may suffer from premature ejaculation, a treatable phenomenon that is very common in men.Sometimes, the use of certain medications can also delay orgasm in women.An adequate assessment of the underlying factors (related to the biological, civil, environmental, etc. mood) and a necessary management can be useful, "said Dr. Malhotra.
Enjoy the action, do not worry about the result
But that is not the end of your relationship if you can not find the answer or the reason. Dr. Kumawat explains this with a very thoughtful advice: consider the act of love as a banquet. "The only goal of taking part in a banquet is to enjoy the party to enjoy each course to enjoy each bite and enjoy the camaraderie of the other guests," said Dr. Kumawat. "Imagine now before you and your partner are forced to swallow your last bites of dessert at the same time.This new goal changed your perception of the banquet.They no longer concentrate totally on food or company, but only on the Dessert The climax in orgasm for men and women depends on their ability to relax and let go of all the "duty" that restricts sex to sex, "Dr. Kumawat added.