We are the generation that doesn't want relationship.We want a second cup of coffee in our Instagram's of lazy Saturday mornings.We want a second pair of shoes in the artsy pictures we take of our feet.We want that facebook official relationship that everyone can like and comment on.We want the post that wins relationship goals.We want that date on Saturday morning brunch someone to drown our sorrows for the monday blues.We want that Taco Tuesday partner someone to text us "Good morning" on a Wednesday.We want a +1 for all the weddings we keep getting invited to.
How did they do it?
How did they find their happily ever after?
But we are the generation that doesn't want a relationship.We swipe left in a hope of finding the right ones.We try to special order our soul mates like we do on Postmates.We read "5 ways she will fall for you" and "7 ways she will fall for you" thinking we can upcycle a person into a relationship like a Pinterest project.We invest more times into our Tinder profiles than we do with our personalities,yet we are the ones who don't want a relationship.
We talk and We text.
We snapchat and we sext.
We hangout and pass happy hour.
We go to coffee and grab a beer, anything to avoid an actual date.
We private message to meet up,small talk for an hour only to return home and then small talk via text.
We forgo any chance of achieving real connection by mutually playing games with no winner.The only thing we end up winning is most likely to be alone.We want the facade of a relationship without the work of a relationship.We want that hand holding without the eye contact.We want the teasing without the serious conversations.We want the pretty promise without the actual commitment.We want to celebrate the anniversaries without the 365 days that lead up to them.We want the happily ever after without the effort in the here and now.We want to have deep connections but still keep things swallow.We want that World Series kind of love without willing to go to bat.We want someone to hold our hands,but don't want to put power to hurt us in their hands.
We want everything that will give us the illusion of a relationshilp without an actual relationship.
We want a placeholder not a person,we want a warm body not a partner,we want someone to eat with while we scroll through out newsfeed.
What we need to recognise is that the things we truly want,the things that are deeply meaningful,the things that are genuinely fulfilling,all require patient.They all require work,they all require energy.The challenge is we all want to be with someone who makes us happy,when what we need to do is be someone who makes us happy.We sit with our friends discussing the rules but no one even knows what game we are trying to play because the problem with our generation not wanting a relationship is that at the end of the day we actually do.
Source:https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=1969186426729146&id=1557825057865287