I'm not really one to know so much about relationships, but somehow, I always love to help out and hear the stories of others and see if there's anything I can do to help.
I got talking to a friend who needed my help and advice on an issue.
It was quite a difficult one and I was almost lost on a reply to give and so I decided to share here.
Perhaps, I could get ideas from relationship experts here and who knows, a relationship could be saved.
What Would You Advice?
I was raped and lost my virginity. I have a fiance which I'm afraid of losing. How do I do it. Should I tell him or not. If I'm to tell him how?
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She has been a virgin since they started dating and it's been 4 years into the relationship and they've never had a sexual relationship because they've been waiting for the wedding night.
Bed undefiled.
The guy knows about her virginity and which is why they have not indulged in any sexual acts.
But few months to her wedding and she got raped.
How does she relate this to her fiance?
How will he take it?
Different thoughts ran through my head as I pondered what reply would actually work.
What if the guy thinks she never was a virgin?
And the story was only made up to cover up her silly acts because she knows he will find out at the wedding night.Why didn't she get raped earlier on in the relationship all these while the guy has been respecting her by wanting to wait till the night before they do. 🤣
Telling the guy might be the most sensible thing to do but what if he calls off the wedding after breaking the news to him.
Even if she is to tell him, how does she go about it?
Dropping the bombshell without wetting the ground may not really be a good idea.Finally, because of how scared she is, she is contemplating breaking the news over the phone.
Is that viable?
I'd really appreciate whatever comments I can get as this will go a long way in fixing somebody's relationship.
Thanks for your time.
I remain your girl, Juliet Israel