To sustain a relationship, love is without a doubt, one of the most important aspects to be considered. But, is it enough to become loving and trusted partner for a lifetime.
It is always about “we” and “us"
Whenever you are referring yourself and your partner as “we”, you are considering the both of you as a single entity. I have been using more of “us” and “we”, rather than “I” or “me”, and trust me, our relationship has naturally got enhanced to a next level. In fact, according to the study conducted by the University of California, Berkeley, couples using more of “we” and “us” see, to be happier, calmer and more contented in their relationships.
Understanding the ups and downs in relationships
You simply expect your relationship to have happy times 365 days. There are scores of disappointments, and as a couple, you both have to be communicative enough to understand each other better. You may not always see eye to eye on everything. He/she may do things you can't stand.
On some days you may want to punch them in the face.
This is pretty normal! Don't expect it to be perfect all the time, Or you will be in for a disapointment.
This is particularly vital for those in a long distance relationship. The lack of physical presence is the greatest disadvantage, but you have to maintain your positive attitude.
Explore new things together
Often due to our hectic schedule, we try to get bored of our routine and our relationship gets the maximum hit.
In order to bring new spice in your relationship, you can try out exploring new places, involve in new activities and laugh out together, do silly things that take you back to your childhood days. Trying out new avenues helps you to jazz up the relationship and also bring a sense of excitement.
Often time relationships end out of boredom, Unless you are dating someone who is completely against trying new things, This doesn't need to happen.
Show gratitude
Once you feel grateful and thankful for every small thing that your partner does and says, your relationship will grow and blossom. It has been revealed that gratitude helps in reducing the hatred and feelings of pain since your focus is more on the positive attributes of your partner.
According to a study, by Rita Watson of Yale University, a three-day gratitude plan was held, where 77 couples participated. At the end of the session, the couples felt more positive about their partner. Positive feelings, no doubt, helps in retaining the relationship for a lifetime.
As a couple, you also need to understand your partner’s likes, dislikes and know him/her as a person by spending quality time whenever possible.
These are pretty basic tips on keeping your relationship going, But so many people neglect them or forget about these things. You sometimes will see married couples who are so unhappy! And you see how they gave up on trying and stopped appreciating each other. It gets to the point, they never try new things together either. It's really sad, Because the simplest thing can help revive their relationship so they can be happy again.
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