Romance culture and the marriage...
I'd love to tickle my wife while she's doing
house chores. I'd love to hear her say "I beg
leave me jare", in a romantic tone while I'm
putting my lips on her neck.
Can my wife and I play like nursery school
pupils? Can she jump on me while laying on
the bed to whisper into my ears, even if the
matter were to be something meaningful?
Can I do "pillow fight" with her in the
bedroom?
Married folks should be free with each other
enough as to chase one another about in the
living room.
I was once in a female teacher's house while I
was a boy. Her police husband arrived home.
They exchanged greetings. Later, while the
woman was teaching me Maths, her husband
threatened to give her injection. The man took
a pen and gave a short chase. The woman
giggled while she ran back and forth.
She said "Where did you even get your
injection?" She came to me to continue the
lesson.
In my very young boy heart, I wondered; "How
sweet marriage is." When the only meaning of
"romance" in marriage
is "sex", that's crap to me. When the only time
one gets romance in marriage is before, during
and after sex, that's not "good marriage"
enough.
Everything isn't sex. Let her put her head on
your
chest and gist you about some challenges at
work. Discuss about your itinerary as a pastor
while loosing her braided hair.
Tell each other how it is that one of you is
finer
than the other and laugh about it. Let the wife
pick her husband's legs, nose or fingers and
deride him for it. Both of them should be able
to laugh freely at themselves over "his long
nose",
"her thin legs", or "pot belly."
Whoever says marriage shouldn't be run like
friendship is being run? Must everything be
formal and official? When the only time the
man
and wife talk intimately is only when there's a
serious issue, that's marital crap.
Some never hear of what happened to their
spouse until a third party discussed it. That's
not
healthy for marriage.
That's why the 60 year old wife leaves her 75
year old husband later in life, and forgets
herself with her granddaughter. Some have
become a
nuisance to their son/daughter in law. The
other
side is why the 60 year old wife tell her
married
daughter, "Please I've played with your baby
enough. I miss my husband."
Romance is important in marriage. Sex isn't
for baby alone. Can't we sing into each
other's ears?
But I'm just tired of this so called African
tradition.
Everything is too formal.
Can't the husband act like he's still trying to
"toast" his wife even in marriage? Can't the
wife
just loosen up and not be too "cranky?"
*Marriage is to be enjoyed and not to be
endured.
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