Self confident and arrogant at first glance seem to be the same because they both looked convinced and strong. As the result people often cynically called someone who believe on themself as an arrogance person. There is nothing wrong to be a confidence person. In fact these two things (self confidence and arrogance) is like water and fire. Making relathionsip with someone who has sself confidence is a lot easier then with an arrogance person.
Here is the reason:
The Origin
Confidence and arrogance come from two different intentions.
Self confidence come from within ourself, while arrogance come from emptiness inside our heart.
That why someone with self confidence does not particularly care what other people said, They are aware with their own uniqueness and projecting it to the world. Meanwhile arrogance is arise because someone needs something outside their self to admit that he was great.
Insecure
In fact an arrogan person is someone who feel insecure. They realize there is something wrong with their life but they ussually will denied it. That why ussually an arrogant person ussualy use something materialistic to show that he was worthy. Forexample they will looking for a boyfriend that can make them proud in the front of other people not for the sake of love.
Competence
Someone become confident with their skill because they often doing somethings consistently and repeatly. Therefore, they understand their true strengths and weaknesses. What they think about themselves is in compliance with reality.
Meanwhile, those arrogant is the person who looked at themselves higher than reality. They consider themselves superb, and want people around them to acknowledge it. How they achieve this? By manipulating the situation around them to get what they want. When they did not get it, they will feel offended.
How they deal with obstacles?
Confident people take failure as something normal. He was sure he could do it again properly, after learning the drawback. They will not blame their self or other people around them. That also why someone who has confident have a lot of friend.
On the contrary there is no room for forgiveness bythe arrogant. They do not want to be criticized and just want to hear a compliment. While experiencing a failure, they would blame the situation. There must be someone who should take the responsibility for their failure, and it's definitely not themselves. That's why loving an arrogant man will only hurt yourself. Because the victims of arrogant people are usually the ones closest to them.
