True relationship defines our existence. It details who we are and our humanity. Having friends makes life worthwhile.!
However, when the relationships we’ve put in so much energy into and really matter to us don’t seem healthy anymore and isn’t bringing in positive vibe or making us happy, what do we do ?
Here are things to do when friendships starts to fade :
RE-EVALUATE YOUR MEANING OF FRIENDSHIP
Your definition of what makes a good friend may be different from your friend’s. This may sound unreasonable, but this is the platform on which you build a relationship that may one day flourish. Be sincere. When a friend’s actions or decisions scare you, share your heart in a non-judgmental way. Tell your friend what you need, what you want. Your friend may see things differently and it may solve any misunderstanding between the two of you. But if your friend chooses not to respond in kind, you’ll be able to gauge if this is a relationship you want to keep.
Friendships are best when they’re mutually beneficial. If your friendship begins to feel like a responsibility, then you are giving in or doing too much. Your friend should accept what you’re able to share and not expect much more from you.
ACCEPT WHAT PEOPLE HAVE TO OFFER
I have learned to see each friendship for the unique feature it brings. We can force a friend to be all at once. Some friends are generally good with being any role for the moment, some friends are good with deep conversations, while some a just good with the funny banters.
EXPRESS GRATITUDE
Acknowledge how beneficial your friendship has been and how much you appreciate your friend. There are several ways to show appreciation to your friends. I always suggest handwritten letters. A handwritten thank-you is one of the most impactful ways to express gratitude in an era when most people simply jot off an email or a text. But when was the last time you wrote a letter to express you gratitude? Take some time write a letter to a loved one, expressing your gratitude for everything they’ve done for you. Moreso is sending text message. It is very important.
IT’S OKAY TO LET GO
Relationships are complicated, and it’s never an easy choice to let go of friendship. It is painful for me to accept friendship is over, but in order to live authentically and to be free, I have to let it go.It doesn’t happen overnight. As the relationship deteriorates, you tend less and less of each other. It could be a long, emotional, and unpleasant process when you are deciding whether you should on with a friendship or to let it go. All these feelings are normal. Any transition in life comes with some form of discomfort. It means we are growing and evolving
Stay open to new friendships and to your present moment. Staying open allows for new opportunities and new relationships to come into your life when you are ready.