Each of us has gone through not one or two love sections. They are always disappointing, painful, prolonged. Overcoming the end of a relationship is experienced differently from each of us.
The American journalist and author of books on the love affair between man and woman Tamsen Fadal also goes through a painful divorce after which she had to find a new meaning for her life.
See a few very important things you need to know about the end of the links. Realize them to keep moving forward.
Nothing scary will happen
At the beginning of each parting, we regret ourselves, suffer, come back to the time we were together with the former / former, tell us again and again everything to our friends. Our nights are more sleepless, sometimes we lose appetite, but the moment we go forward.
Tamsen believes the first 90 days after parting with someone is the worst. They are the "survival mode". She recommends that you do not make hasty decisions, get rid of the things that hurt you and pay attention to your appearance and your health.
You know very little about yourself
In one connection, people make so many compromises with themselves in the name of the partner that they forget what they really want and who they really are.
The time after separation is the time to start doing the things you like. Now you are important.
To meet the right partner, you must first get rid of the wrong one
There are connections we call a lesson and between them is the one we will call love for a lifetime. When two people differ in understanding and expectation of their lives together, the relationship must end, however painful. But this is the price we pay for the next level of our development. If you want the new partner to find a place in your life to come into your heart, make sure you are freed emotionally and physically from the previous one.
You need silence
The good part of the sections is that we can try new things, start a new hobby, start meditating. Tamsun recommends "we exclude ourselves" when we are at home for at least a while. Try an hour to stay away from your smart devices, to spend this time with yourself in silence. Try meditating, gathering your thoughts, and having a deeper understanding of what you want to do.
Remember, it is better to be untied than to relate yourself
One of the main reasons why people do not leave the links that hurt them is the fear of staying alone. For them, the idea of going to the cafe, cinema, eating at the cafeteria is terrifying. In fact, we are not afraid to be physically alone, and fear comes from staying privately with our thoughts and emotions. But being untied is not the same as being alone in relation.
Last but not least - love yourself, believe yourself and find happiness. If you have the expectation that your personal happiness depends on whether you are in contact - you are wrong.
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