This is a very powerful idea and many people might not like it in the beginning, but this is profound idea, if you just take this principle and you will use it in your life, the amount of attraction that you will generate from the opposite sex is going to be huge. You should be completely detached from needing anyone to fulfill you in your life. This means that you should realize that you do not need anyone in your life to make you happy or fulfilled despite what it might seem right now. You might think right now the whole point of getting into a relationship is because I want have love, compassion, excitement, I want to find my soul mate. That’s all well and good, but I can guarantee you that the biggest problem that you are having if you are being not attractive in a relationship is not that you are not pretty enough or you are doing something incorrectly. It’s this general idea this philosophy that you are going into the relationship with the need for somebody to be your second half to fulfill you.
A healthy relationship is one in which both parties can be confident, independent and happy by themselves, and only then you two can come together and create something that is greater than the sum of its parts. This is a hard idea to wrap your mind around because, if you are feeling lonely right now and you are feeling like you are lacking something in your life. And you think if only I had that guy or that girl, if only I had that love then I would be happy, I would be content my life would be complete. The problem is it’s highly unattractive to the opposite sex. It’s actually repulsive to the other person, when you are desperate and when you are needy other people do not want to be around you. The reason you don’t want to be in this needy desperate position because actually what you are doing is being inauthentic to yourself. You are not in touch with that you can be happy by yourself and you are looking for a crutch, you are using this other person even though you call It love, you are using this other person to fill a void in your own ego. There’s something within you that you are not facing up to.
