Relationship Advice For Men
One of the biggest differences between men and women is how we deal with stress. If there is a problem, women want to vent and talk about it. Women are more process oriented than goal oriented. Men are more solution oriented. If there is a problem, men want to focus on it, solve the problem and be done.
Women don’t want the problem necessarily resolved or an answer right away. They need time to talk about it, process it, and think. This gets men very confused and frustrated listening to a women vent. They think we are whining when we vent and if they tell us how to solve the problem, then they expect us to act upon us right away. Men need to understand that sometimes women just need to vent, be acknowledged for their frustration, and then we’re over it. Women need someone who will listen and say “Oh really?”, “uh huh,” “Yes, I can understand why you’re upset”.
So when your lady is stressed, just let her vent. When she starts into it, give her good eye contact, show concern, support and ask her…”Do you want me to listen right now or do you want me to help you solve this?” She will tell you what she wants and you need to stay true to her request. Make sure she has said everything she wants to by asking, “Is there anything else you need to tell me? Do this and you’ll create amazing connections with the women in your life.
Dynamic Speaker, ABC TV Personality and Relationship Coach Val Baldwin’s passion is helping people building sensational relationships for greater success in life. Check out her website valbaldwin.com