Give Without Expectation
One of the healthiest habits you can build when in a relationship is to get used to doing things for your partner without expecting anything in return. Like seriously, nothing at all. If they’re right for you, they will reciprocate for you when you least expect it.
Make her a mixtape of her favorite Taylor Swift songs. Write her a hand-written love letter and put it somewhere you know she’ll find it. Take her on a surprise picnic to the local park. All this for absolutely no reason, other than seeing a smile on her face as she realizes how much you care for her.
The most important thing is to show that you care. That doesn’t necessarily require a lot of time, money, or grand romantic gestures, just something to show that she is present on your emotional radar.
The greatest relationships are the ones where you can enjoy doing cool things for one another, and not have to worry about “paying each other back.” Why? Because you know deep down they’re going to get you back in an amazing and unexpected way.
Nathan Adlam is the Founding Editor of Social Sage: An Introvert’s Guide to Charm. When not at his day job, he enjoys eating guacamole, playing sports, and shopping at Trader Joe’s. Grab one of his free eBooks here on how to have interesting conversations and how to avoid the friend zone: www.socialsageskills.com