Relationships travel through many spectra. It has a lot of black, white, and grey shades in it. You can unfold some of these layers and shades of relationship on Wisledge too. During the inception of a budding relationship, we think that we cannot live ever without the other person. This gives us a lot of mental satisfaction. You would be surprised to know that the reality is wide different. Most of the times, things take U-Turn from the point that we feel is the popular notion. Actually, the definition of love had always been very messy and blurry. It has no such dedicated path of flow nor does it flow just like usually people talk about.
Relationships have multiple dimensions and one such dimension is, sometimes, people may fall in love again just by staying away from each other. Surprising, isn’t it? This is definitely one such thing that violates or just the opposite thing to the conventional definition.
Two people when they are in love, they cannot think of the boundary or staying apart from each other. They want to stick together forever just like a family. This is something which is pretty natural, not only in a romantic relationship but also in every relationship. Every loved one always wants to be connected with each other. Sometimes, it can be seen that people take things for granted in relationships.
A relationship feels just like a barren land when people involved do not want to rectify their mistakes. It is not possible ever that everything done by the couple is perfect. Making mistakes are human things and the same thing is applicable to relationships as well. Sometimes, people in love become so habituated with certain things that they start taking it natural or normal. They rarely do care about the trivial things that eventually become so enhanced that nothing can save it.
And, here comes the term ‘solitude’ as a savoir to the relationship. In modern times, when every relationship is shredded and torn to a larger extent, solidarity has the power to save it from the core. Here goes a list of stages that solitude takes us through to protect a precious relationship.
Stage 1: Realisation
Things become knotty and webbed when two people stay together for 24x7. They feel that the world surrounding them is perfect and impeccable. Even during the time, they are making mistakes or fighting with each other, they overlook everything. They rarely worry to find out the root cause of those. The moment they decide to stay apart, they realise what was amiss. They can identify the zones easily where they made mistakes. Sometimes, solidarity provides a huge amount of recess time just to find out the parent issues where they were making mistakes. Overall, the right solution is never possible without realising the faults. And, that is possible only when you start staying separately from your partner, at least for a couple of days.
Stage 2: Self-Importance
Well! An ideal relationship should never choke your desires. Self-esteem is not just any other random discussion for debates, it is an issue that is needed to be applied in real too. A person who has lost respect to own eyes, can rarely achieve anything in life. Surprisingly, such things usually happen when people are in love. They often do things that rarely excite them or make them feel good.
The taste of freedom comes along with the realisation of self-importance or self-esteem. And, solitude can help a person in a much bigger way that one can even imagine. Whatever is lost in a relationship can be easily found just through the right amount of self-importance found at the right moment.
Stage 3: Silence Prevails Everywhere
No! This is definitely not just a random phrase. Silence is what amiss in every modern age relationship. The absence of silence can make people crazy and impatient. Noise, fun, and entertainment are definitely amazing; but not at the cost of pure silence. Absolute silence is a bliss that takes you through the path of self-satisfaction. In fact, I believe that silence is what you need sometimes, especially for the sake of relationships. Silence has the power to touch millions of hearts without uttering even a single word.
Stage 4: The Healing Call
Solitude can be thought of as a call to action to achieve the divine purity that everyone seeks in a relationship. The final call is about having an interaction with the person you love. After a long and blissful solitude, this session of interaction helps a lot to heal everything that was damaged. Now when you have realised, you would notice yourself that how easy things were. But, your impatient mind always came between you and your happiness.
Solitude is a bliss if it is done at the perfect time. Let your mind and your relationship heal just like there is no tomorrow. Let the passion and desire bloom with a beautiful solitude.