There are some people who have experienced heartbreak in relationship that they shouldn't have begun in the first place. They seem to mix up love with infatuation. But don't worry,if you don't want such mistakes again, I have put together ten ways to know if you are in a wrong relationship.
When the primary focus of the relationship is on emotions and feelings but lacks synergy and has no defined purpose. Often, it meets temporary needs, but lacks a vision for tomorrow and a greater good. Such infatuation-based relationships do not stand the test of time and distance.
When the relationship constitutes a distraction to your initial goals and vision in life, especially academic, spiritual, and short-term goals.
When the relationship contradicts your values and personal convictions. If a relationship conflicts with your belief system and philosophy of life, it is like a car without brakes. You wouldn't drive such a car, would you?
When you have to fall out of love with God and his word just to stay in love with him or her. When we have to ignore our moral stand, and embrace lying and hypocrisy in order to sustain a relationship, it's an indication of a leaking roof.
When you have lost inner concerning the relationship and your attempts at fixing it fails miserably.
When one of you is on a desperate mission to rescue or make over the other person. I will change him so that I can love him, or it's only one bad habit she has so I will change her. Thinking this way makes you a fixer of lives or an assistant God, rather than a mere man.
When the timing of the relationship is a distraction and one or both parties are in it for parasitic reasons. Perhaps one party needs money and material things, and another needs sex and comfort. True love is absent. They are just parasites. Such relationships always crumble with time, leaving deep scars behind.
When you are the only person that sees something good in the relationship, while your friends, family, pastors, and colleagues are all worried. In the multitude of counsellors, there is safety. It is very difficult for everyone else to be wrong at the same time.
When the things you do or permit in the relationship have become like the secrets of a cult and you even proceed to swear to that effect using a drink, blood, or saliva.
When you want to quit the relationship but cannot because you are a victim of depression, guilt, blackmail, "manage me anyhow" and "I have nowhere else to go".
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