Self-criticism exists in the minds of all people and can be very beneficial when used in the right way. It drives change and can lead the individual to achievement.
But since everything in excess is not good, when criticism of oneself blocks and breaches perfection, something must be done. It is rarely perceived by the person himself, who ends up giving up his own dreams and charges himself for not realizing them.
This becomes a vicious circle and, instead of seeing the good side of life, one sees only what makes it bad.
To use only the good side of self-criticism and avoid lack of growth, it can be controlled as follows:
- Treat yourself as a friend
It is different the position that the person has before a problem of a friend or one of his own. When the friend is frustrated by not getting something it is common to be calmed down and encouraged.
And why can not people do it for themselves? Why so much criticism and collection? Thinking about how it would be if the situation were with a friend is a great way to educate the mind against excessive self-criticism.
To imagine that you are counseling someone dearly with empathy and taking the advice for yourself will be far more positive than just criticizing and disapproving, causing paralysis and trauma.
- Acceptance
Far from stagnation and avoiding personal progress, each needs to accept himself before comparing himself with others and initiating personal criticism about himself. Exercises for this can be done as writing the positives in one's own vision and of other people.
Wanting to change something in oneself does not have to be accompanied by negativity and guilt. It is necessary to recognize the grandeur that exists within you only to understand what changes are welcome when necessary and will be much easier to achieve with self-esteem.
- Understanding
The demand on oneself can distort reality and only the person sees what no one else can. Stopping and reflecting on what you are feeling about yourself and what vision is happening is important in understanding the actual situation.
Some questions for yourself like: Why do I think I am like this? Do people think that about me or me? Why do I believe that? They will help to understand that self-criticism is doing damage and is not necessary at this point.
By learning to know and control harmful thoughts, growth will be much greater and more productive. When self-criticism is used in the right way, the result comes to satisfaction and the person gains more quality of life and satisfaction.