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Divorce is at the increase in our society today, and the consequences are always grievous. According to Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
The effects associated with divorce affect the couple’s children in both the short and the long term. After divorce the couple often experience effects including, decreased levels of happiness, change in economic status, and emotional problems. The effects on children include academic, behavioral, and psychological problems. Studies suggest that children from divorced families are more likely to exhibit such behavioral issues than those from non-divorced families
Some common causes of divorce include:
Being together for wrong reasons
Getting married for example for money or to please someone, is the preamble to an almost immediate divorce, but often happens that you get married because it is considered the best thing to do.
Many people argue that the problems that led to the divorce were already present in the couple from the beginning, but if you go to examine the reasons that led them to get married, very often, there is an error of assessment. Some examples? Getting married because everyone expects you to hook up, or because you have already spent a lot of money on marriage and you feel that you cannot pull back, or because you have built your dream house together.
Lack of identity.
An addiction relationship is not healthy. When you do not have personal interests or opportunities to express yourself outside the couple, the relationship turns into a handicap. In fact, many people sink when they understand that they do not feel comfortable doing things without their partner, or when they realize that they do not know what kind of music, film or food they prefer because their identity is confused with that of their partner.
Get lost in the roles
Many couples forget their friends and their habits of singles when they are married, and the situation often degenerates when children are born, since most parents completely forget that they are a couple. While children grow up and require less attention, many husbands and many wives discover that they have gradually turned away so much that they cannot even remember the reason why they married, as they do not have anything in common any longer.
Different interests and habits
"Everything has changed since we got married!" Many couples always say. Why are you not getting together better? After getting married, many couples could find out some other peculiarities they had not noticed before, like the tendency to spend or be too parsimonious, or the disorderly being or control freaks, to go even further in detail: you love animals and the partner no, you love going to the beach but your partner the mountains, etc. ... It is probable to change was not the partner, but your expectations. Is it possible to overlook this difference of views? Yes, it is possible, but not everyone can.
There is no more intimacy
Even in the best marriages the sphere of intimacy is not always 100%. It happens that one of the two shows less desire of the other for a bad day, because it is not in good mental or physical form or for a thousand other reasons. But when it happens often misunderstandings and bad thoughts begin. Men generally feel the need for sexual stimulation to be romantic and women need romantic moments to be sexually receptive. As long as both manage to get what they want, they feel satisfied and satisfied, but if the mechanism gets jammed, and if you do not have time to notice it, and to repair it, it will lead to a degeneration of the situation. One will begin to feel unloved and appreciated, and this could lead to divorce.
Unexpected expectations
A very common mistake is to demand that the other give us that happiness that we ourselves are not able to give ourselves; so it happens that in "down" moments, we often expect our partner to make the necessary changes to make us happy again. This attitude manifests itself in the form of complaints, criticism, accusations, grievances, threats, punishments or blackmail. When one or both partners try to force the other to do things they do not want to do for their own happiness, the result can only be a disaster. If your relationship does not make you happy, there's nothing wrong with wanting change. But remember that you are solely responsible for your happiness.
Money
Money has always been the cause of discussion in most families: money problems are not always the cause of divorce, but lack of compatibility with regard to economic aspects.
Opposites are attracted, true, but when two people are poles apart about financial matters, very often they end up divorcing. Imagine the level of conflict between those who spend too much and those who want to save money. Who is focused on their own future and who live for the day. Who has no problems to take out a loan and who puts aside money to make a wish. Over time, this conflict becomes so severe that divorce seems to be the only logical solution.
Being physically distant and not showing affection
Physical contact plays a fundamental role in a couple, and we are not just talking about sex. In fact, gestures like a kiss not tied to the sexual act, a sudden embrace, a hold of one's hand while walking, maintain emotional intimacy. Couples who do not show affection with physical contact, whether sexual or not, are destined to feel, sooner or later, strangers.
Different interests and priorities
Sharing interests and cultivating them together is essential for a good marriage. Of course, having time to spend on your own is just as important, but if there are no common passions and you are not looking for ways to live them together, you will move away almost inevitably.
Inability to resolve conflicts
There is no couple who never have conflicts. This is why it is essential to identify basic rules for making sure that you listen and respect each other. Sometimes there is the need for an external judge to help us define these rules and explain how to go beyond resentment and animosity so that they do not get caught up in our relationship.
Reference
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