It's immature to call or threaten anyone
because he or she is chasing after your fiance
or fiancee. It is like forcing your partner to
love you against their will. Don't waste your
time and energy doing that. It will be like
chasing goats from an unfenced garden. It is
stressful and not wise. The best way is to fence
or wall your garden. In the era of social
media, you might end up telling your partner
to close their account.
No one will love you because you want him or
her to; it's like asking them to pretend to love
you. Real love comes from the heart and if it's
true, it will flow freely in both directions.
Think about calling someone who is chasing
your partner, to warn them to stay off, only
for your partner to call them back and
apologize. You end up losing respect at both
ends; your partner and your rival.
Imagine arresting a guy who was threatening
the peace in your relationship, but you will be
shocked when your girlfriend turned out to be
the one who went and bailed the guy from cell.
How will you feel?
Your rival is not your business, your business
is your partner. When you learn to take care of
your partner, he or she will take care of your
rival. You are not getting married to your rival
and this is why you don't have to make them
your business. Make your partner your best
friend, pay attention to them, listen to them,
make their happiness your priority, cement
your spot in their heart, it makes it difficult
for any third partner to win them over. They
might comment on their pictures, but you own
their heart.
If you love your partner that much and don't
want to lose them, you don't give up just
because someone is chasing him or her, rather
use that as motivation to love them and treat
them right; when you do that, it makes it
difficult for your partner to leave. You end up
giving them the power to cut off the third
party disturbing the peace of your
relationship.
Let your actions and how you treat your
partner speak for you; when that happens you
won't be bothered with their 5000 friends on
Facebook or their 10,000 followers on
Instagram. You will care less about likes and
comments on their pictures. Love goes beyond
words, inbox messages, likes and comments.
Those things are not real and it makes no
sense for your partner to choose them over
you.
Your warning won't change them; sometimes it
might even land you into trouble, and not just
losing respect. The truth is sometimes no
matter what you do or how hard you try,
people will always have their own opinion
about you.
Exercise maturity. Learn to walk away from
people who threaten the peace of your
relationship, the respect you have for yourself
and your partner and your personal self-worth.
Don't be clever by calling your rival to settle
things he or she has with your partner, instead
be a wise person by avoiding such drama, and
find better ways to make your relationship
with your partner stronger. It is absolutely
useless chasing a hacker, the best you can do
is to have a strong security.
In conclusion "It’s like this: when I was a child
I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child
does. But when I became a man my thoughts
grew far beyond those of my childhood, and
now I have put away the childish things" - 1
Corinthians 13:11 (TLB).