The Destructiveness of Co-dependency
(Chains can be broken using modern technological breaking tools. However no such tools exist for breaking emotional chains. You have been warned. Source.)
Essential questions for codependents, which might be of help if you pose them to yourself:
1. Why are you attracted to broken people?
2. Why do you feel as if you have to step in to solve someone's problems?
3. Why do you think it's even possible for you to solve someone else's problems?
4. If you had to choose between two types of women, would you choose one that's broken and with problems, or one that's a healthy, functional individual?
These are all extremely important questions, and they might help you determine and realize one thing or two about yourself.
1. Yeah, so why are you? Are they attractive? Well, there are attractive women who won't swallow your soul whole and leave you emotionally dead for years and years after your eventual and inevitable break-up. And what is so goddamned attractive about a broken woman that you just need to fuck her and be intimate with her for years? Is all that really necessary? If a relationships is based in co-dependency, you will break up, so why waste your time? Maybe you're attracted to break-ups?
2. Don't you have enough on your plate already? If you're attracted to a broken woman, then that's going to slurp you down a drain filled with a billion additional problems that will end up on your plate to solve, and you will be shamed if you choose not to help her with these things, because that's what these types of broken women do, because they're broken.
3. Have you ever read a success story about a couple in which the guy stepped in to "save" a broken girl and who actually succeeded? Come on. These people aren't together because they want to get better; they're together solely to feed their co-dependency and put the solving of their deep, emotional issues trauma on hold! That's what co-dependency is all about, and that's exactly why you trying to solve the problems of a boyfriend or girlfriend never works. I repeat: It NEVER works. Simply because the basis of the relationship is the complete opposite.
4. If you've exclusively been choosing type 1 throughout your life, then you've got a huge problem on your hands; you're literally destroying your life and all of your future chances for real connection, deep discussion and satisfying relationships.
/Helpful Eddie