Amazing post!
I am in a relationship with my husband since I am 15 years old, which is 11 years since December 2017.
The time we are together teached me a lot of priceless lessons! :)
Most people fall in love, feel incomplete and try to get what they didn't get enough as a kid, from their partners.
Most people, at the beginning, only see the positive sides of the person, and with time passing by they discover all the "imperfections" on each other and start to fight. They aren't really prepared for meeting their soulmate and have a relationship in divine and healing love.

They:

• Think relationships are there to fulfill their needs
• Expect the other one to be the way they like
• Only accept relationships as long as they seem perfect and they haven't to put too much effort in it
• Want to change each other and don't accept other oppinions or ways of thinking, living and feeling.
  Instead of seeing each other as a mirror and grow to become the best versions of themselves together, they fight about being too different, about not feeling understood etc. and even break up if the "learning" effect gets too much. Facing your own limitations, fears, belief-systems etc may hurt as hell. But a true soulmate relationship is exactly about breaking everything down that dosen't belong to you, refelct each other and grow from this experience

A real soulmate realtionship isn't about 100% harmony and agreeing on every point. It is about loving each other unconditionally for who they are and promise each other to go the path of life together, fight all its fight side by side and support each other to become the greatest and most authentic version of yourself.
Sometimes that means to be criticized in a helpful way. Sometimes it means to get a "NO!" or a negative feedback. And sometimes it also means to go through hard times just to reflect your own behaviour and mindset and grow together by learning from it.

The 11 years of relationship tought me, that a deep love and open communication plus the will to grow together are a really strong way to make some enormous personal growth as an individual and a couple. Sharing your path of life dosen't mean to agree in 100 % and always smile.

It means to grow strong together and so strengthen your bond and love until nothing can ever tear you apart and you feel deep within yourself: This is the person who gives me what I really need to grow! To free myself from any limitations and to refelct about myself and so let go of what dosen't serve me and us.

Due to the relationship to my husband I was able to grow in a way I never had been able to when I didn't have him as a mirror. Even if it hurt sometimes a lot to face my fears and though-patterns, it helped me more than I can every say to become the woman I want to be! :)

Oh sorry, this post got pretty long :D
I just let my thoughts flow.
Hope you don't mind! :D

Thanks to anyone who was patient enough to read all that :D

I wish you all lots of love :) <3

Yours Linda