I got engaged to a loving woman, yet both she and I have been in previous relationships.
Uh-oh say most people.
However, I don't say uh-oh: I say thanks to our differences. Why do I NOT say uh-oh?
Because…the ability to say thank you is as a result of my conscious choice to choose to respond to these differences with "heart", that is, with compassion, kindness, justice, humanity and righteousness. Last night we had a small row...but this morning we love each other more because we BOTH placed our heart towards the other rather than trying to build each other's separate kingdom and win the battle. No one wins when both have relationship history and hurt in their hearts.
But B OTH WIN when they consciously choose to cut the other some slack…to give mercy.. .to let it ride if it is not that crucial to the happiness of the couple.
Remember we are NO LONGER two...but daring to become One.
MR