Why Do I Keep Attracting the Wrong Guys
It is the desire of every single person to settle down and build a family someday. This starts by making connections by way of attraction. Without attraction, there cannot be a connection in the first place. That is the way nature designed it. However, once in a while we find ourselves attracting the wrong set of people and we ask “Why do I keep attracting the wrong guys?”
We all have a picture of the kind of man we want and the kind of future we hope to build. Most young women want the tall, dark and handsome breed with a fat wallet and a kind heart although lately, it has become obvious that no man is the full package. While it may be hard to find a man or a lady who is everything we want, at least there are things we can’t imagine and there are some guys we can never imagine our future with. Sadly for some, these are the same set of guys that keeps coming to say “Hello!
What do you do when you find yourself in this fix? Here are a 3 things to check if you keep attracting the wrong set.
Check Who You Are
There is an African adage that says “Only the dead body attracts flies!” This is very true in the case of attracting the opposite sex. If you find yourself attracting bad guys, then you need to check yourself, you probably have some bad things about you. If you keep attracting fake guys who borrow everything they wear, guys who will go to any length to impress a lady; then you probably are the same type, you probably are living beyond your standard too.
We can’t deny that once in a while, you will attract guys who are not your type but if it keeps happening non-stop, then you have got to check yourself well. Take time out and do a deep soul searching. Ask your friends what they think about you. Ask people who care about you. You might just find out some deep things you didn’t know before.
Check Who You Keep Company With
Another thing you need to check is who you keep company with. If you are a good girl and you keep hanging out with bad girls, then you are going to attract bad guys. Wrong associations will bring you where you don’t want to be. So the second thing to check is who you are spending your time with. Check who you top 3 friends are. Check their lifestyle and the kinds of things they do. Check who your friend’s friends are then you will know why you are attracting the wrong set of guys.
Check Where You Hang Out
The third thing to check if you are always attracting the wrong set of guys is where you hang out. Where do you spend your time? You probably are not going to attract pastors when you are always in the club; the pastors are in the churches, not in the club houses! This matters a great deal. It may be hard for you, it may actually feel like you are faking who you are but hey, this is marriage we are talking about. This is who you want to spend the rest of your life with. Therefore, you cannot make mistakes about that.
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