Love and fear are opposite ends of the emotional spectrum. You can choose either at any time, and as I'm sure you've experienced, choosing the love end of the spectrum is much more pleasant! I am far less concerned with what an ancient text has to say about when/how/towards whom I should feel love or fear than I am with choosing for myself. I encourage striving to feel love toward all beings at all times and using fear as an indicator that I'm not feeling love, and thus not in a position to act "godlike" (that is, if I'm feeling fear, I don't have access to the part of myself that allows for unconditional love, selfless action, understanding, compassion). Ultimately, we are each here to create our own understanding and definition of living an optimal life. Pick and choose what resonates with you from texts, interactions with others, etc. and discard the rest. Understand that no singular existing set of beliefs is perfect for you, and that your purpose in life is not to live as someone else says you should, but as YOU determine you should.